Common Sense of It All!

Now and again ladies and gentlemen we get these hypothetically questions that starts with "IF".  I think that a lot of us get caught with that "IF" cause even in a real life situation, however there is that one question that many of us are questioned and dream about if it really did happen to you(me).   So I though I would go ahead and have fun with this one. . . . If you were stranded on an island, what 3 things would you want to bring with you or could have with you? (Think really carefully.) For myself I though about the following 3 things: a tool box with a screw drivers set, a hammer, a knife, 2,500 nails,500 screws, a small saw, a large box of matches and a measuring tape. a kitchen set including small and large sauce pan, small and large pot, 3 folks, 3 spoons, 3 knives and 3 knives, 3 plates, teapot and 3 cups. Oh I can not forget a couple of mixing bowl and wooden spoon. a suitcase full of clothes that would include two coats, 4 sweaters, 9 t-sh

So I ran across this topic in Pinterest and I really had to stop what I was initially doing to read this article about the Psychology of Communication.  Y'all know that I am about to have fun with this, right?   Here are two words that most of us do not know how to use well: psychology (and Lord help us!) and communication (Our Father, give us, all those on this earth the understanding of having patience with ourselves as we form our words to correctly come out of our mouths . . . . ) In today's time our biggest problem is that we don't listen to understand before replying.  (Can I get an AMEN! up in here?) In today's time, our biggest problem is that before we speak we do not grasp the full understanding of what the other person is trying to communication to us. (Can I get another AMEN! up in here?) In today's time, our biggest problem is that we do not full express yourselves right to fully received a proper and correct response.  (I need another AMEN! up in

So for those who know real well, know that I seldomly carry a small purse. Now before your men get turn off and move on to next thing to read, you should really pay attention to this and read this because not knowing what is in a woman purse can be detrimental to your health.  First know that different between a purse and a hand bag: a purse is smaller, a clutch is smaller than a purse and a hand bag can kick your ass.  A woman's life in that bag/purse, and let me further explain. In my very big black bag, I have in it: A large tube of moisturizing body balm, can not have dry crackling hands.   A red wallet with all my club cards in it, a couple pic of Nick, driving license, and cash.  A gold pouch with lipstick, lip tinter, lip balmer, vitamin oil for my toes, rewetting drop for my eyes, Avon powder for my face, and my inhaler. A red pouch and inside it is my sun glasses, extra pair of headphones, a couple of pens and some post-it in case I need to write and leave an emerg

I can not believe that we are in October already!  Yes I am freaking out because my finals for this term is in 3 weeks, along with Halloween! How many of concern October the beautiful month or the scary month? Now look here it can only be one of the two choice and I am going to ask you some questions that you should think about or at least ask that crazy girl at work these questions. Do you love it when right about this time the color of the leaves start to change to yellow, then orange, then red, and then brown? Do you love it when stores start advertising for Halloween and October has not came yet? Do you love it when you notice that the temperature starts to change to chilly to cold? Do you love it that television land starts the 31 Days of Freight Feast on October 1? Do you find yourself drinking more beer in October than any other months? Do you find yourself just driving around looking a the beautiful scenery that fall has to offer? Don't you just hate it that W

Y'all, I have been told time and time again that the life that I have lived should be and ought be written for everyone else to read.  Yes I believe in living a life that is not designed around others but it is enjoyed with others.  But before I can write down these stories that I have lived, I think you should at least get to know me better and understand my mental state of mind! Right? I am so the Devil's Daughter in my behavior. This is a good thing because . . . . I enjoy what life has to offer. I will always tell you the truth about me so be careful what questions you ask me. If I am offended about something, I will tell you.  That way I am always happy. I give compliments where I see compliments are deserved, and I make it a point to compliment my friends and some of my love ones. (I said some!) I am flirtation and I like to bite with it. Who would I have an affair with? Hhhmm, let me think. . . . Simon LeBon for starters; Daniel Craig can be my everyday robe;

Upon turning 45 years last December I have been experiencing some womanly things that has cause me to not be myself any more. I find myself being a lot more happier, nicer and sarcastic than usual.  I know that when I get in my 40s that I would be going throw some things with my body but the Lord did not prepare me for what I have been through this year with my body.  So recently I went to see my Gyn. and Lord have mercy on me because I have been her calling my BYON or my GYON, y'all just walk along with me because I really have not myself at all. So sitting the in the doctor's office with the doctor and I am explaining to her how Auntie Flo has really been inconvenient for me this year.  I love her when she shows up on regular 28 days but then there were times when she would show up 2 or 2 1/2 weeks later and in my frame of mind, I am like let me kill this bitch here! There has also been a few times where this bitch would show up 30 or 45 days later. Ladies in my frame of mi

Lord have mercy, we are in another month for the year 2015.  If some of y'all like me and you saying this year is flying by . . .for some of us this a good while for others it may not. For a lot of parents this is a good thing because it is the start of another school for their children who are going back to school or have already started school.  Who is doing the dance of joy on this one?  If you don't have little ones still at home, this means peace and quiet for you at home until 3 p.m. For other parents it means fewer less children. ( Geçmiş olsun!)  But it also brings all the after school programs, those parent-teacher conferences that many parents dread, and those Fridays' night games. For all you new college students, for the first month you will be stupid to things but after that you will be okay.  For all you second year students who did not learn anything in your first year, then consider yourself still stupid!  For you third year students who have managed to

I should have known better when I first saw my Auntie Doreen with a Google page.  My Auntie Doreen, who we call Auntie Do is about as old school as you can get!  As far as she is concern technology is an enemy for the enemy.  So we have to give her the benefit of the doubt when it comes to social media because she still is illeteral to both social media and technology. (Sidebar: I just ask for an ass kickin from her! WOW!)   Now when she started posting simple things I was like "Good Auntie you are catching up with us in the social media world!" I was so proud of her trying to keep with not just her kids and grandchildren but also her nieces and nephews and grand nieces and nephews.  And then she had told me that she wanted to try to keep up with me. (Giggles . . .hahahaha!) Right, too funny y'all! So does a good niece like me do?  I teach her the simple things with certain apps that she can use and have fun with.  That way she can show a little something something to h

So many of you know that I live in Milwaukee, which for me I am still trying to get use to. Why? Because having to live a long time in Chicago and have lived in Istanbul, Turkey, can you now understand the small factor here?  If you have read Research this Dum Dum! then you can understand why I am still trying to come to terms about the size of  the city.  Any how, for a while the Milwaukee County Transit System (MCTS) and the County of Milwaukee have been in talks regarding the bus drivers contract. There were so many things that did not know make common sense to me at all and has made me mad about the whole thing in general. Now for those of us that take public transit to and from work/school, we know from first hand that sometimes the bus drivers will ask to be excused for a moment while they run to go to the washroom.  After all they are driving those buses for well over an hour time in one direction.  Of course they got piss or whatever, even I may need to take one after being

In my Introduction to you piece I had mention that I have been wanting to write for some time and I wanted to write about my experience of living Istanbul, Turkey.   However upon me starting to write I started to come up with all these different ideals as to what to write about. When I started my new temp assignment, my job wanting me to do research on how to start a blog and maintain it for work.  You see my job has a blog but they were not doing anything with it, just sitting there waiting to be acknowledge.  I (at that time) did not know anything about starting a blog let alone maintaining one. So I started spending countless hours on research.  (After all I am the research Queen!) Reading valuable advise and helpful hints to expand my understanding as to exactly how blogging is done with the help of social media, it can help get the viewers and/ or make money from writing a blog.  Sweet! However I am not in it for that. The one of the few things that I keep seeing is that when w

I believe that I have found a new addiction to have that will not cost me a penny.  It can probably make me some penny if I do it right.  However if I am not careful it can create for me some difficulties that I am choosing not to have.  It all started when I decided to go back to school to get my associate degree back in Chicago in 2008.  Part of my homework assignments call for me to do some research on various things. I graduate with an Associate to move on to start working on getting my Bachelors, and then there were more things I had to start researching for.  My research started to expand beyond homework and into new interests that were slowly being developed.  From food, to wine, getting out and about around Chicago and into watching Korea soap dramas.  But then I moved to Milwaukee where my research came all about getting around this small town.  Yes I did say small town because that are less than 700,000 people living coming after living in Istanbul, Turkey with a population o

Now usually I do not write about celebrities because I don't think much about them in that way or any other way, but come to think of it; I did have a whole fantasies thing with Simon LeBon and Nick Rhodes.  I may talk about them in good spirit or repeat a rumor that I do not believe in, and I will wish them happiness.  Of course if I don't like an actor or two, well there must be a reason.  However the kid that I am about to talk about in this piece has cause me to have mixed emotions which is quite an accomplishment because I do not do emotions.  I first saw this kid (Sidebar: Yes I get to call him a kid because he is younger than the 5 years radius in which I would date him.) when I was living in Istanbul, Turkey (2001 - 2004) in the movie Bend It Like Beckman (2002)! I am a huge fan of Keira Knightley and I love it when she does time pieces.  I think she is at her most beautiful-ness when she does those kind of movies.  I saw him and I though he was a pretty boy with thos

Now I am not one to seek revenge out on people for any reasons.  Yeah, I will cut them with a few words but to simple go after them and do actual damage to their reputation or cause some major bodily harm is way too much for me to do.  However I am one to say the I do believe in Karma and I have always say that what goes comes around, and it will come back to the person who did the harm to some one or to those who had not cause them harm in any way.  For me revenge is when some one who told you that they never do something in regards to you, due to one reason or another wind up having to come to you in humbleness and sometimes in shame.  But that is not always the case especially in marriages and friendship.  Lord knows us women can be extremely vindictive towards our husbands (or at least I can be when I get marriage again).  We woman will try to and often success in taking everything away from him just so that he does not have to opportunity to share with that other woman. (Ain'

Happy August people!  I know for some people this is the month that you have been waiting for.  Why? Because your kids go back to school!  And you are looking forward the having that peace and quiet for those few hours at home.  You will be able to get most of your house hold chores done, complete those long waiting errors without having the kids in your hair, and perhaps getting to salon on time for once.  However with this month also brings a new set of goals to complete and those few remain tasks from last month to finish up on.  but this month I also want to discuss what is going on here in Milwaukee with the Bus drives vs. the city negotiations.  These negotiations have been going on for quite some time now and there has even been a 3 days stop drinking strikes. ( Don't get me started!) As I writing about this, I believe that it will come in 3 or 4 pieces; depending on how pissed off I get in writing it! Of course I thoroughly having conversations with the buses drivers the

As a parent we always want the best for our child(ren)., and we start with educating them on things that we think that would be best for them to know as they grow up.  I was still a teenager when I became pregnant with my only child, Nicolas.  Did I wanted a child at that time?  No I didn't and it was my mother who said to keep him and that she would help me raise him.  My mother was also a teenage parent starting with me and a year later came my one of two brothers.  Now you are probably thinking that my mother why didn't she teach me not to become a teenage parent?   I am assuming that and I was right, that she did not know how.  She wanted to do my best with my life but she did not know to explain to me how to go about living life.  Growing up with 3 younger siblings I saw the struggles that my mother went through, and in my head I knew that I was not willing to do some of things that she.  I knew in my head that if I was to ever have children that I would raised them in t

So Sunday, June 7 my friend and I with his daughter went to the Circus Italy.  (For those of you who don't know what it is, it is a circus without animals and lots of tricks and water shows.)  It was small and intimate for the audience to get involve with some of the acts.  The music that they played were all Italian musicians from the violist group Bond to Andra Bocelli, (Yes I know about Andra Bocelli!) and this should not be surprising to some of you that I would know some of the artists and understand that majority of the audience would not know who these artists were at all.  However the case, the audience especially the children enjoyed the show.  Now you know how you are sitting there enjoying the show and there is always that one or two persons that shout out obscene gestures to the acts on stage. First time that person say something you laugh at it.  The second time you are like okay.  Beyond that you are like okay enough, be quiet, and shut the hell up!  Don't you w

Okay, I will be the first to say that I know that I am guilty of thinking too fast to type.  If some of y'all have not all ready seen my many typos and incorrect sentence structure, I am guilty as charge.  But let's rest our minds for a minute or two and let's think about why our minds be racing in the first place.  I know somebody (whose last name we don't know) is going to say that it is due the chemical reactions that is doing on in your brain and in our body.  Well, that maybe true however there is always a reason behind it why the Wonder Twins be reacting the way that they do. Think about yourself during various times.  When I am at work, I am thinking about work unless otherwise (to be explain).  I am in school working on my master with each semester being 8 weeks cycle. I will be thinking about that week's assignments all the time even at work.   While I traveling to and from work my mind starts to or will be thinking about things at both work and school. 

We all have these days once and in while.  It is a day where anything and everything can and does goes wrong. And for some of us it is not just a day, it could the whole damn week, and for the very beautiful few fortune ones, you get the whole month.  It usually starts off with something simply like your forgot your wallet, pickup the wrong set of keys or everyone's favorite - over sleeping that morning.  Now you know that from the moment that you woke late you are like "Man my day is going to be messed up!"  (Those are not my exact words but you get what I am saying, right?)  Then what's next for you that goes wrong?  The shirt that you want to wear is not ironed and you go to ironed it and what happens? Do you have a brown spot on that shirt?  Or do you have a hole it?  God said to be holy but depending on the size it might be a little too much for the day!  Let's move onto socks. . . I stop wearing them once the weather is warmer to as far into Fall that I ca

Hello Everyone, I am so sorry that I have been off the grid this week however I had to prioritizes my work.  Some of you know exactly what I mean.  There are simply times where we become bombarded with work and things of life that causes us to disappear for a little while or just until things get settle for us.  For me it is always school work in the last two weeks of each semester.  See, I attend an accelerate program for my Masters at Keller University, and each semester is only 8 weeks long.  Midterms are always on the four week and finals, you guess it, are during the 8 weeks.  Depending on the topic I may have to go straight to Trader Joe's and get a few bottle of wine so that I can still objective.  Yes I need help with that! (Sidebar:  for those of us who are in IT, when it comes to writing those proposals you know you need a drink! Stop playing! I am writing them in school, I can image what you are writing in the real world!)  Now I need a drink! (Water has been excused

When I was living in Istanbul and I was taking a CELTA course at the British Council.  For my final paper I use the slave English to explain how when we speak, we don't always pronounce all the letters in a words. Example:  I ougha hit yo ded in yor eye for wha yo jus sed but omlette it sid. I am sure that some of you can say it the long way. But also know that some you are going to take a minute to truly understand it.  And would you believe that some us really do say something to this nature?

As a parent I dreaded having to have the sex talk with my own child  and this is because I was still feeling the fear factor from when my mother gave me the sex talk.  How she did it is still imprinted in my mind.  She used a medical dictionary to explain to me and your brother.  She used the picture to gave us the imagination of where the two parts connect at and how the liquid gift finds it way to home to create the bun in the oven. So when it came it my child, I was like either talk to your friends or go talk to Brent.  And I was even more traumatizes by my grandfather giving us the sex talk! I had to be in my early teens when my grandfather had this brilliant ideal to sit his grandchildren down (those of us who were enough, myself, my brother Man, and my two cousins Astonie and Quenton) and had the sex talk.  For those of you who knew what kind of man my grandfather was, you are already laughing.  For those of you had had the opportunity to be involved with one of my grandfather