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The Psychology of Communication

So I ran across this topic in Pinterest and I really had to stop what I was initially doing to read this article about the Psychology of Communication.  Y'all know that I am about to have fun with this, right?   Here are two words that most of us do not know how to use well: psychology (and Lord help us!) and communication (Our Father, give us, all those on this earth the understanding of having patience with ourselves as we form our words to correctly come out of our mouths . . . . )

In today's time our biggest problem is that we don't listen to understand before replying.  (Can I get an AMEN! up in here?)

In today's time, our biggest problem is that before we speak we do not grasp the full understanding of what the other person is trying to communication to us. (Can I get another AMEN! up in here?)

In today's time, our biggest problem is that we do not full express yourselves right to fully received a proper and correct response.  (I need another AMEN! up in here.)

In today's time, our biggest problem is that there are those who share way shit that some of us don't give a fuck to know!  (Where is my AMEN on this one!) I am just saying and you know what kind of information I am talking about.

In today's time (Yes I am taking this one to church people!), in today's time our biggest problem is some of us cope an attitude when someone else is trying convey their understanding to you, and they do not know how to express it right.  (Who got their Sunday's best on 'cause I need another AMEN! on this here.)

For an example, the other day I had to give support to an acquaint of mine.  She was complaining how stupid she was for not explaining herself correctly to the boyfriend and for letting things get the way they were at that time.  I agree with her on her stupidity but I explain to her that she was good at it and that she should be proud at acknowledging her stupidity.  Here is where the psychology part of communication comes in at: I am willing to support whatever mental state you happen to be!  You would not support your friend who communicating their feelings in their current state of mind?  Okay then.  A true friend would will always tell their friend the truth about themselves . . .that is part of the psychology of communication people.

Family members are excluded from this because regardless of what level of psychology may be presented at any time to communication. . . . . . they are still your family! (Amen!)

Here is another example people: have you ever paid attention to how the word "Hello" can go a long way with some people who are appreciative enough to return a "Hello" to you.  Ever when you say "Good morning" or "Good evening" to an unknown person and either that person or some one who is an appreciative person with return it in good manner. (Notice I did not say shit about good nature.)  Because depending on who you are talking to, they may not be in good nature to return your good nature in the same pleasant that you gave it however will return it with an half-ass response.  (Can I get an AMEN up in here?) If you never paid attention, try it!

Ladies and Gentlemen the psychology of communication is done in various form and throughout our lives. How we communicate to with others is how they will get that communication back to us.   but then again there are times we need to exercise that strong will to not go upside some one's head due to their mental state.  Trying to stay bright in your element can be difficult when somebody else pisses you off.  That is not your problem, that is theirs.  Remember do on to others as they will do upon to you!  (I know . . .it is difficult to do!)

For parents this can sometimes excluded you because, when I was young, my mother used to say "I brought you into this world, and I CAN take you out of it!" Yeah I did not like when she said it however she is my mother and I did whatever actions I was told.  This is the same psychology of communication that I used with my own son.  It is call "Fear your Mother!"

The art of communication can be fun at someone else's expense.  My second mother Patricia has an habit of repeating herself in one conversation at least 4 to 7 times.  For fun, I like to repeat it back to her in proper English; yeah, it pisses her off to no end.  In her angry state of mind she will say to me "Fuck you Victoria!"  I will reply to her with a "I love you mommy!" And it is followed by another "Fuck up Victoria!" This is our psychology of our communication. (Okay it is more fun for me than her.)  She and I are both Capricorns and we are like day and night; she being night and me being day all damn day long intruding on her night.

The psychology of communication comes in many different forms which we all know and we express.  This is why we have comedies like Seinfeld, Bill Blemeny, and my cousin Q.  Their style of communication provides monster laughs from everyone.  And that is why we have politicians. . . they feed us the psychology of bullshit!

We deal with the psychology of communication in everything that we do daily. From our family, to our friends, to coworkers/boss, and to strangers. Even when we drive our cars, there is a level of psychology in communication there.  How many of you drive on the defense?  Because other people can not drive!  See the psychology of it.  Their driving has communicate to you to be on the defense.

Now my family including my cousins, has communicate to me that I should not drive that way everyone else would be safe.  I guess they were not worried about themselves!  Psychologically!


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