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Breaking the Cycle!

As a parent we always want the best for our child(ren)., and we start with educating them on things that we think that would be best for them to know as they grow up.  I was still a teenager when I became pregnant with my only child, Nicolas.  Did I wanted a child at that time?  No I didn't and it was my mother who said to keep him and that she would help me raise him.  My mother was also a teenage parent starting with me and a year later came my one of two brothers.  Now you are probably thinking that my mother why didn't she teach me not to become a teenage parent?   I am assuming that and I was right, that she did not know how.  She wanted to do my best with my life but she did not know to explain to me how to go about living life. 

Growing up with 3 younger siblings I saw the struggles that my mother went through, and in my head I knew that I was not willing to do some of things that she.  I knew in my head that if I was to ever have children that I would raised them in the opposite manner in which how my mother raised us.  I knew that when it came to relationships with both men and with my son I wanted to do them differently than what my mother had done.  I choose to put my son first because I did not want to be involved with gangs and to be addicted to drugs.   Therefore I moved to areas where I though I would not have to worry about son being persuaded by gang members.  My son had an imagination that was all about Pokemon and Gameboy so joining gangs did not fit in his lifestyle at that time, according to him.

As my son was going up and the things that I had to learn, I shared with him so that he would understand the difficulties of us staying alive.  I was thinking that if start now in teaching my son the things that he may need when he has kids some then he would be prepared in making the right decisions for his family.  I definitely wanted him to learn from my mistakes as we were both growing up.  And I proud to say that my son did not make the majority of the same mistake that I did when I was his age and is doing better in life that I did.

As parents we try to teach our children the tools that we believe that they may when they (the children) reach adult hood.  Sometimes we parents will receive heartbreak along the way as well as tears of joy and sadness.  We as parent lose out mind when we have to buried our children before they can buried us. Mainly we parents fill our children with hopes and dreams for them to carry out, and when they at a young age so does those hopes and dreams.

So for the time being we parents need to educate our child on the things that regret and the things that we miss the opportunity to do and say.  In today's life we can not afford to let our children make some of the mistakes that we did when we were young and we as parents can not afford for them not to learn from their own mistakes when they make them.  And most importantly we as parent need to teach our children about common sense.

Breaking the cycle starts with us parents in order for us to have better society and for our children to live a longer fuller life!

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