If I was stranded on an island, what 3 things would I bring?

Now and again ladies and gentlemen we get these hypothetically questions that starts with "IF".  I think that a lot of us get caught with that "IF" cause even in a real life situation, however there is that one question that many of us are questioned and dream about if it really did happen to you(me).  

So I though I would go ahead and have fun with this one. . . .
If you were stranded on an island, what 3 things would you want to bring with you or could have with you? (Think really carefully.)

For myself I though about the following 3 things:

• a tool box with a screw drivers set, a hammer, a knife, 2,500 nails,500 screws, a small saw, a large box of matches and a measuring tape.

• a kitchen set including small and large sauce pan, small and large pot, 3 folks, 3 spoons, 3 knives and 3 knives, 3 plates, teapot and 3 cups. Oh I can not forget a couple of mixing bowl and wooden spoon.

• a suitcase full of clothes that would include two coats, 4 sweaters, 9 t-shirts, 6 pairs of jeans, 3 pairs of jogging pants, 12 bars and 20 pairs of panties, 10 pairs of socks, a hat, a scarf, and gloves, 2 pairs of gym shoes, and 3 pairs of ankle boots.  And please let me not forget some toiletries  

Now I know that my things are very detailed (Hey, I am a girl and I need girl things!) however if I am going to be stranded I would like to know that I at least have some of the essentials  to survive.  But I know realistically I could not and probably would not have the ability to have those in a real stranded situation.  

So I rethought to question and came up with this: a case of red wine, a case of bottle water and a case of toilet paper.

According to my dad he would need a weapon, fresh clean water and a another person to talk to.

Which got me to think about another question regarding being stranded on an island, so who would you want to be stranded with?  This question made me think very long and very hard about.

So here is what I was thinking and I broke it down into two people, past and present.  From the past I was thinking about Richard Nixon so I can find out what the hell thinking about when Watergate went down, but then I thought about Harriet Tubman because I want know her cooking and that would lead to me being a lot of trouble.  Delicious good trouble of course.  So from the past I really would have to go with the character Alexandar Grayson (which actor Jonathan Rhys Meyers plays in Dracula), that way I know for sure that I will have a GREAT ASS time!  

From the present I thought about Donald Trump but would lead to me kicking his ass 50% of the time base on some of the things that would come out of his mouth.  (Plus that is a permanent headache and unfortunately I would not have any Tramadol with me.) But if I had to pick anyone from the present it would be my best friend Glenna.  Why?  Because I know she would appreciate the peace and quiet, the sun and the fresh air without having a lot of people there, and the fresh fruit and how we can cook our food our way.

So now I going to ask everyone, if you were strand on a desert island, what 3 things would you need and with who would you want to be there with having one person from the past and one person from the present?

I can wait to read what some you are going to say!

The Psychology of Communication

So I ran across this topic in Pinterest and I really had to stop what I was initially doing to read this article about the Psychology of Communication.  Y'all know that I am about to have fun with this, right?   Here are two words that most of us do not know how to use well: psychology (and Lord help us!) and communication (Our Father, give us, all those on this earth the understanding of having patience with ourselves as we form our words to correctly come out of our mouths . . . . )

In today's time our biggest problem is that we don't listen to understand before replying.  (Can I get an AMEN! up in here?)

In today's time, our biggest problem is that before we speak we do not grasp the full understanding of what the other person is trying to communication to us. (Can I get another AMEN! up in here?)

In today's time, our biggest problem is that we do not full express yourselves right to fully received a proper and correct response.  (I need another AMEN! up in here.)

In today's time, our biggest problem is that there are those who share way shit that some of us don't give a fuck to know!  (Where is my AMEN on this one!) I am just saying and you know what kind of information I am talking about.

In today's time (Yes I am taking this one to church people!), in today's time our biggest problem is some of us cope an attitude when someone else is trying convey their understanding to you, and they do not know how to express it right.  (Who got their Sunday's best on 'cause I need another AMEN! on this here.)

For an example, the other day I had to give support to an acquaint of mine.  She was complaining how stupid she was for not explaining herself correctly to the boyfriend and for letting things get the way they were at that time.  I agree with her on her stupidity but I explain to her that she was good at it and that she should be proud at acknowledging her stupidity.  Here is where the psychology part of communication comes in at: I am willing to support whatever mental state you happen to be!  You would not support your friend who communicating their feelings in their current state of mind?  Okay then.  A true friend would will always tell their friend the truth about themselves . . .that is part of the psychology of communication people.

Family members are excluded from this because regardless of what level of psychology may be presented at any time to communication. . . . . . they are still your family! (Amen!)

Here is another example people: have you ever paid attention to how the word "Hello" can go a long way with some people who are appreciative enough to return a "Hello" to you.  Ever when you say "Good morning" or "Good evening" to an unknown person and either that person or some one who is an appreciative person with return it in good manner. (Notice I did not say shit about good nature.)  Because depending on who you are talking to, they may not be in good nature to return your good nature in the same pleasant that you gave it however will return it with an half-ass response.  (Can I get an AMEN up in here?) If you never paid attention, try it!

Ladies and Gentlemen the psychology of communication is done in various form and throughout our lives. How we communicate to with others is how they will get that communication back to us.   but then again there are times we need to exercise that strong will to not go upside some one's head due to their mental state.  Trying to stay bright in your element can be difficult when somebody else pisses you off.  That is not your problem, that is theirs.  Remember do on to others as they will do upon to you!  (I know . . .it is difficult to do!)

For parents this can sometimes excluded you because, when I was young, my mother used to say "I brought you into this world, and I CAN take you out of it!" Yeah I did not like when she said it however she is my mother and I did whatever actions I was told.  This is the same psychology of communication that I used with my own son.  It is call "Fear your Mother!"

The art of communication can be fun at someone else's expense.  My second mother Patricia has an habit of repeating herself in one conversation at least 4 to 7 times.  For fun, I like to repeat it back to her in proper English; yeah, it pisses her off to no end.  In her angry state of mind she will say to me "Fuck you Victoria!"  I will reply to her with a "I love you mommy!" And it is followed by another "Fuck up Victoria!" This is our psychology of our communication. (Okay it is more fun for me than her.)  She and I are both Capricorns and we are like day and night; she being night and me being day all damn day long intruding on her night.

The psychology of communication comes in many different forms which we all know and we express.  This is why we have comedies like Seinfeld, Bill Blemeny, and my cousin Q.  Their style of communication provides monster laughs from everyone.  And that is why we have politicians. . . they feed us the psychology of bullshit!

We deal with the psychology of communication in everything that we do daily. From our family, to our friends, to coworkers/boss, and to strangers. Even when we drive our cars, there is a level of psychology in communication there.  How many of you drive on the defense?  Because other people can not drive!  See the psychology of it.  Their driving has communicate to you to be on the defense.

Now my family including my cousins, has communicate to me that I should not drive that way everyone else would be safe.  I guess they were not worried about themselves!  Psychologically!

What is in my purse?

So for those who know real well, know that I seldomly carry a small purse. Now before your men get turn off and move on to next thing to read, you should really pay attention to this and read this because not knowing what is in a woman purse can be detrimental to your health.  First know that different between a purse and a hand bag: a purse is smaller, a clutch is smaller than a purse and a hand bag can kick your ass.  A woman's life in that bag/purse, and let me further explain.

In my very big black bag, I have in it:

• A large tube of moisturizing body balm, can not have dry crackling hands.  
• A red wallet with all my club cards in it, a couple pic of Nick, driving license, and cash. 
• A gold pouch with lipstick, lip tinter, lip balmer, vitamin oil for my toes, rewetting drop for my eyes, Avon powder for my face, and my inhaler.
• A red pouch and inside it is my sun glasses, extra pair of headphones, a couple of pens and some post-it in case I need to write and leave an emergency note.
• A red very small red case for an extra set of contact lens.
• A bottle of Mult-purpose Disinfecting Solution for my contact lens; this is a 2 fl. oz., no biggy.
• Sony headphone to tone everyone else out.
• A bottle of Ibuprofen for just in case moments.
• Purell instead hand sanitizer which I think everyone should be carrying.
• A bag of Halls Defense and a bag of Halls, need to stay healthy.
• Ice breakers, for those moments.
• My Epipen, can not leave home without that, EVER!
• A red eyeglass with actual prescription glasses, in case I do not want to continue wearing my contact lens.
• My tablet with its case, one of two ways of keeping up with social media while in the streets.
• A small red notebook for notes.
• An emergency cell phone charger.
• A black card holder with my cards, trying to put my writing out there.
• A red umbrella and a scarf for a quick thrown on accessory with my outfit. 
• And a bottle of Victoria's Secret perfume, appropriately titled Victoria!

Now understand this gentlemen, though items listed above are in my purse now, that can all change tomorrow depending on what I am going wear.  Pay attention gentlemen, most women change their bag according to their outfits.  Yes we (referring to us women and a few other girlfriends and y'all know who in the hell I am talking about) always must accessorizes.  Yes what is in my bag does not mean that it will bag in other women's bags, well maybe a third of it will.  But do know that some women carry more makeup, will have several pieces of clothing and a pair of shoes in their bag.  And you will NEVER know it. 

Now I would like to have in my bag is something I can pull out in case of "I need a man" moment.  Ladies you know: he will be taller than you with a nice body, pretty bewitch eyes and very kissable lips. . . . never mind!  That is why that boy from Ireland is grounded now, and will stay grounded until he becomes ugly. (Got the angry face here!)

And gentlemen have you ever notice how us women carry our bags around?  You notice how she just fling its around like it is paper.  Trust me we are just waiting for a moment to knock your ass into 2026 for just thinking the wrong thing or for looking at that other chick when you should be paying attention to her.  And while you are looking at the size of our purse, you should wonder if we got a pair pliers or knife in that bag.  Hell if it is bag enough she might pull out a chainsaw out on your ass.  But then it might be small enough to carry a brick in to do just enough damage for you to get some stitches and new set of common sense. (We can only wish!)

Gentlemen, just be aware of our purse!  It can be your friend or enemy and now that it is October . . . .the worst thing we got in our purse is a bag a chocolate.  Well I got cashews, some Thai bites and Snickerdoodle dip with cinnamon pretzel sticks.  (I am not a fan of chocolate!)

Coming this month in October. . .

I can not believe that we are in October already!  Yes I am freaking out because my finals for this term is in 3 weeks, along with Halloween! How many of concern October the beautiful month or the scary month? Now look here it can only be one of the two choice and I am going to ask you some questions that you should think about or at least ask that crazy girl at work these questions.

Do you love it when right about this time the color of the leaves start to change to yellow, then orange, then red, and then brown?

Do you love it when stores start advertising for Halloween and October has not came yet?

Do you love it when you notice that the temperature starts to change to chilly to cold?

Do you love it that television land starts the 31 Days of Freight Feast on October 1?

Do you find yourself drinking more beer in October than any other months?

Do you find yourself just driving around looking a the beautiful scenery that fall has to offer?

Don't you just hate it that Wes Craven is no longer here to continue his regimen of terror on us?

Don't you just hate it that when you finally go to pick out your Halloween costume there is not one in your size?

Don't you just hate it the Freddie can still pop up in your damn dreams? 

Don't you just hate it that all the scary movies that you seem before can still scared the beejesus out of you?

Don't you just hate it that you did not bring a bigger bag of all that Halloween candy?

For those of you who have hard wood floor, don't you just hate it that you are now walking on clod floors and that they are going to get even colder?

Don't you just hate it when the neighbor hood bully takes all your Snickers out of your Halloween bag?

Don't you just hate it when now is the time for you to be changing your summer wardrobe for the fall and winter wardrobe?

Don't you just love it when all the crazy people in your office comes around to pass out Halloween candy and one or two of them actually do frighten you?

Don't you just hate it that when you go into a haunted house and you know what to aspect, yet you still jump from fear?

Ladies are you like me and love the deep red colors along with to gold, browns, and teal that comes out with the fall fashion?

Some of y'all may not know this, but for those of you who drive everyday for one reason or other, and come across those drivers whom you say don't know how to drive . . . . . . That is Your Halloween on a daily basis!

I can probably guess what some of you are going to say, however let me say this. . . . . there ain't no way in hell of present time that I am going to watch a scary movie in this month.  Not without 7, 9, 12, 15, 18 bottles of wine.  Per movie!

Ladies and gentlemen, have a fun month with October.  Instead of drinking beer, drink hard apple cider and pretend to be drunk, that way you don't get a ticket from the po po (that's police to some of you unknowns).  Guys find the scariness haunted house that you can find that way she can see you jump. (Hahahaha!)   Ladies, take a picture of your favorite relative, have it blown up to a mask, wear it for Halloween, then see how they react! (I got a little cousin name Spook. Yes, I know what you are thinking and that is why I am going to use his face for Halloween.) Haha haha haha!

Miss Victoria's Secrets!

Y'all, I have been told time and time again that the life that I have lived should be and ought be written for everyone else to read.  Yes I believe in living a life that is not designed around others but it is enjoyed with others.  But before I can write down these stories that I have lived, I think you should at least get to know me better and understand my mental state of mind! Right?

I am so the Devil's Daughter in my behavior. This is a good thing because . . . . I enjoy what life has to offer.

I will always tell you the truth about me so be careful what questions you ask me.

If I am offended about something, I will tell you.  That way I am always happy.

I give compliments where I see compliments are deserved, and I make it a point to compliment my friends and some of my love ones. (I said some!)

I am flirtation and I like to bite with it.

Who would I have an affair with? Hhhmm, let me think. . . . Simon LeBon for starters; Daniel Craig can be my everyday robe; Jonathan Rhys-Meyers is my every day snack; Chiwetel Ejiofer can dress me and undress me for that fact; and Idris Elba (Lord have mercy!) would require me to think about it! (I saw a picture . . . . hhhmmm, I saw A PICTURE!) (Happy face!)

Do I enjoy going to swingers parties? Of course I do and sure that martinis are being served.

Am I an opportunist?  Only if it is given to me. 

What are my hobbies?  Create one for me so I can get into trouble.

My favor drink is Sake-tini.  Followed by Soju and a Saki bomber. 

I keep a bottle of either Gray Goose or Absolute Vodka just so I can stay objective when I am writing my papers.

I am on the lower end of being a full-figure girl.  Don't ask me to be skinny, I don't fuckin' look right!

I am a gamer mom with my own Guitar Hero set and second guitar.  I have Devil May Cry 1, 2, 3, & 4 and never play them.

I enjoy watching anime and wat--ching anime.  All you slow ones hurry up and catch up!

I would like to sit down with Donald Trump and discuss with him about King Richard IV.  Followed by a day or two of peace and quiet. 

Even though I have several boyfriends, Mehmet is the only one (for now)!

When it comes to shopping, I shop more for underwear because a girl must have something sexy underneath at all times!

My daily moisturizer is Vitamin E, that way you all would continue to believe that I am in my thirties!

I eat in modernization that would include my men.  And come to think of it the only time I do chocolate are my men.  (Giggles!)

I am very supportive in anything that my friends decide to do with theirs lives. Even if they fuck up, I will still support them.  And if they understand that they fucked up, I will support them in their understanding of their fucked up.

My two favorite big brothers are Ronnie and Reggie Kray.

My favorite book is The Kite!

My favorite movies are The Mummy and Deuce Bigalow: Male Gigolo.  Find the connection.

My favorite television series is Dracula starring Jonathan Rhys Meyers.  (NBC and Amazon needs their ass kick for this one!) Got a girl addicted like hell!

My pet-peeves: when a man get into bed with his socks on and he tells me what I can not do. (There is a reason why I am a woman of many skills.)

Turn-ons: An intelligent man with an open-mind and a cast iron stomach! (My taste buds are all over the world!)

Being objective and being non-judge-mental is always a good thing and even better for you! Lord knows how direct I can be.

I love things that are simple and confusing.  That is just how my mind works.

I DO NOT LIKE DRAMA!  Unless it is K-drama (Korean soap operas!)

I find nothing wrong with being naughty as long as it is done with the right person! 

I am always thinking; it is when I am NOT thinking that everyone else is in trouble!

And my favorite pets are Scooby-Doo, Tom & Jerry, and Bugs Bunny.  They require no feeding, no petting, and no cleaning.

I have more secrets to tell . . . .but when I learned them then I can tell you.  But for right now I am trying to understand the psychology of communication and I have to give JRM an apology for 6 Souls. (Well, let me think about that apology!)

What is Pre-Pause Menopause?

Upon turning 45 years last December I have been experiencing some womanly things that has cause me to not be myself any more. I find myself being a lot more happier, nicer and sarcastic than usual.  I know that when I get in my 40s that I would be going throw some things with my body but the Lord did not prepare me for what I have been through this year with my body.  So recently I went to see my Gyn. and Lord have mercy on me because I have been her calling my BYON or my GYON, y'all just walk along with me because I really have not myself at all.

So sitting the in the doctor's office with the doctor and I am explaining to her how Auntie Flo has really been inconvenient for me this year.  I love her when she shows up on regular 28 days but then there were times when she would show up 2 or 2 1/2 weeks later and in my frame of mind, I am like let me kill this bitch here! There has also been a few times where this bitch would show up 30 or 45 days later. Ladies in my frame of mind I am like give me a knife so I can stab this bitch!  (Now keep in mind that I am explaining this to my Gyn.)  Auntie Flo makes herself be known by causing me such pain that I am bend over trying to push her out like I am in labor.  Whenever Auntie Flo is visiting and if I am sitting in the back seat of a car, whoever is in the front seat, guess what?  Their ass is going into the engine of car. That is just how much Auntie Flo is causing extreme discomfort for me.  I also described some other symptoms which I would not share here and just know that they were too crazy for me to comprehend before I had this conversation with my Gyn.

So the following dialog is what took place between me and doctor:

Doctor: Are you having double vision?

Me: Only when I going intents spreadsheets and viewing social media for took long.

Doctor: Do you get dizziness?

Me: Only when I drink too much Kool-aid.

Doctor:  How is your sleep habit?

Me: There are nights where I can sleep all night and there are times like that past few night where I have toss my ass like a salad.  However I am contributing that to Auntie Flo who just came and went. Thank you Jesus!  And yet I have not done my 28 days cycle and I am thinking that I am starting menopause.

(But then the doctor said something that just floored the hell out of me!)
Doctor: It sound like you are having pre-pause menopause.

Ladies, I wish you all were there to see the look on my face because I was still on the "Pre" of the pre-pause menopause.

Me: What? (And I trying to think here but I can't because of the "Pre".)

Doctor: It is where your body is starting to prepare itself for menopause.

Me: WHAT? And wait I am still on the "pre" part.

Doctor: Pre-pause menopause takes place 3 to 7 years prior to menopause taking action. 

Me: Huh? ( I am still in astonishment with "pre"!) (Y'all had to be there to witness my reaction to hearing this.)

Doctor: Menopause is when you do not have a period of a year or more straight.  You period might come for a few months and then not come for a few months.  That is not menopause and you can still have a baby during that time.

Me: Shit, I did not need to encourage Mehmet like that! That boy is under the impression that we can have a baby!  And that is really a conversation that I did not want to have my 25 years son.  Can you image what he will say after all this time?!  And he is leaving to go do Active Duty for the Army. 

(Yes Ladies I am freaking out about this because on one hand Mehmet will have hope and on the other Nick will kill me!)

Doctor: (and she is laughing at me!) You will be fine and I will give some to information on Pre-pause menopause.  Let's start your exam.  Would you like a flu shot today as well?

Me: What? Huh?  Really?  Is it time for that again?  What?

Before leaving the doctor's office I did get my flu shot wondering when did that become apart of the Big Girl Exam process. 

The next day I was still in all about the Pre-Pause Menopause that I had to call Glenna and tell her all about my visit with the Gyn (Gyon - I am not myself, y'all!), repeating everything to here prompted her to say "What?' follow by laughter.  So our conversation was like this:

Glenna: I wonder how many millions of dollars did it take for them to come up with that word?

Me: Do they even do studies on Menopause?

Glenna: Sure they do! How in the hell do you think they come up with all these damn names.

Me: But what exactly is Menopause?

Glenna: Menopause is the transaction of a woman body changes into drying up and get blowing away.  You should write about this in your blog?

Me: I sure should.  Wait, let me write down what you just said about menopause.  Repeat what you just said.

Glenna: I said, I said that menopause is the transaction of  . . . . . . . what the hell did I just say? Menopause is the action of . . . . . Aw hell! Don't ask a person with earlier stages of Alzheimer's disease to remember what the hell I just said!!!

Me: Oooops, sorry sweetie! {As part of the Psychology of Communication, I know that my BBF has a lot of health issues and I never want to her to feel that she is alone in them!}  I forget the we had that!
(This is followed by laughter from the both of us!)

Glenna: What happen to Post Menopause?  And that is all I know about is post menopause.

So Ladies I had to do some research on this to learn that Menopause comes in three stages.  (What?)
Perimenopause, Menopuase, and PostMenopause.  (NO WONDER I AM SO CONFUSED!)  And Lord have mercy . . . . I can not wait to have a discussion with Glenna regard this?

Stay tune and at this point I need something strong than vodka, perhaps Saki!

Coming this Month in September!

Lord have mercy, we are in another month for the year 2015.  If some of y'all like me and you saying this year is flying by . . .for some of us this a good while for others it may not.

For a lot of parents this is a good thing because it is the start of another school for their children who are going back to school or have already started school.  Who is doing the dance of joy on this one?  If you don't have little ones still at home, this means peace and quiet for you at home until 3 p.m. For other parents it means fewer less children. (Geçmiş olsun!)  But it also brings all the after school programs, those parent-teacher conferences that many parents dread, and those Fridays' night games.

For all you new college students, for the first month you will be stupid to things but after that you will be okay.  For all you second year students who did not learn anything in your first year, then consider yourself still stupid!  For you third year students who have managed to get this far congratulation, but you still have not cleared the stupid range just yet.  And those of you who have final made it to this last year of college, you are about to meet the most scariest teacher in your  college life that will make stupid you like you were when you were a freshmen.  (Geçmiş olsun!)

For all of you who decide to embark on getting that Master degree, I encourage you to become a member of a wine club because you will need to stay objective in your writing.  And for those of you who have moved on to getting that Ph. D, I recommend that you find a friend who currently gets a subscription of Vicodin from their doctor.  By the way, geçmiş olsun!

It is the start for yet another wonderful school year of high financial expenses.  Depending on what level your children are at and how many children you have in school.  Elementary school is not so bad with school supplies, Halloween candy and costumes, picture day, Christmas parties, Valentine candy, Easter party and birthday parties at school.  It is not that bad!

For you parents who have kids in high school, we have homecoming game and party, turn-a-bouts, class pictures, prom for our juniors and seniors, and graduation for our seniors.  That is not bad!

For your college student parents', for each that child is in college they will spend a third of your savings.  If you don't believe me here is what you should do: one, save all the receipts from the items that you brought them at the beginning of the year for their dorm living (don't forget to include the gas money you had to spend to them to the dorm); two, keep receipts of all expenses for the whole year including travel and extra spending money; and three, keep all moving out of the dorm expenses this would include gas money too.  then add it all up . . .you probably spend more than a third.  As a parent you have the right to tell your child to get a job to help pay for some of these expenses.

And for those of you who getting that Master or that Ph. D, you are shit out of luck! Your parents can NOT help you at this stage in your life. So man up or woman up and pay for those expenses out of your own pocket.  Yeah, it will hurt while you are getting that degree and it will hurt even more when you finish and got that job to help pay back that money. (Smiles)  This is why I am recommending that you join a wine club.  So it can hurt less, not much but a little less.

Today starts a new 8 week class for me and the start of my social media university classes. So while y'all are reading this, I have already called Asia and she and I are headed to Cooper Hawks to get our case of wine! (She got a 5th grader, an 8th grader, and a junior in high school) She more than a case.



 

My Auntie Do! Let me tell you . . .

I should have known better when I first saw my Auntie Doreen with a Google page.  My Auntie Doreen, who we call Auntie Do is about as old school as you can get!  As far as she is concern technology is an enemy for the enemy.  So we have to give her the benefit of the doubt when it comes to social media because she still is illeteral to both social media and technology. (Sidebar: I just ask for an ass kickin from her! WOW!)  Now when she started posting simple things I was like "Good Auntie you are catching up with us in the social media world!" I was so proud of her trying to keep with not just her kids and grandchildren but also her nieces and nephews and grand nieces and nephews.  And then she had told me that she wanted to try to keep up with me. (Giggles . . .hahahaha!) Right, too funny y'all!

So does a good niece like me do?  I teach her the simple things with certain apps that she can use and have fun with.  That way she can show a little something something to her son Larry and to her nephew (my cousin) Quenton.  I can not show and explain every thing that I know because it will be way over her head to the point I will get a beat down from her for her not understanding.  Now this would include her finding different apps for variety of ring tones.  (She heard my Japanese ring tone and she was like "I want that on my phone!"), so I did.  I had to teach and tell her to stay out of her settings because she kept changing things and then want to know why her phone was not working.  AUNTIE!!! For real?

Ok, now that was a while back in this year and recently my Auntie Do decide to  IM in Facebook.  Now I hope y'all are sitting down when I explain this.  Most of my family members know that when you IM me on FB, I get trigger finger happy.  And when they send a post they let time goes by before sending another message.  Because once engage in a conversation on IM then for every one sentence they are typing, I have already given them eight sentences which often leads to them telling me to slow down my typing so that they can get a word in.  Yes, ladies and gentlemen I am laughing my ass off because I can image their faces as I am typing the words in the screen and pressing send.  The only person who did not know about my happy finger was my Auntie Do and boy did I let her have it.  I started off slow with her in the speed and slowly I increase my speed of typing.  Then I started to go so fast in the my typing that Auntie Do managed to typed "Slow down B*tch!  You are typing too damn fast for me to read."  I was on the floor dying from laughing.  But then Auntie Do let me have it too. . . . I got every bad word in the dictionary follow by "I ought come up there and kick your genius ass!"  For me it was a great torture practical joke well done on my Auntie Do to make up for April's Day!  It was hilarious!

So then later by a few weeks, I had finished another piece in my blog and a couple days later I was checking on the status of my blog when I came upon something that struck me like hhmm.  My Auntie Do, y'all she was at it and she cut loose on Google+.

The message read like this:

• Dam Victoria stop we cannot keep up with you stop baby please
• Larry wife can Quenton can but auntie can't I am old o by the way I am moving to Huston and packing up Wednesday looking for a apt in Huston Thursday love you (Now this is a great topic for Is That English!)

So in my mind I was like "What did I do wrong now?" and I did something I knew that I should have not done - I called Auntie Do. (Here is another ass wooppin' that I done introduce myself to.)   Auntie Do answers the phone and she said "Hello sweetie!" and there was something about how she said "Hello sweetie!" that made me nervous at the same time felt funny.  I told her that I read her message on Google+ and that I got some understanding of what she said, and as I was trying to finish my sentence Auntie Do just goes in and rips me a new one, y'all.  (I could not breathe! I was laughing that hard.)  She begin to tell me about a conversation that she had with her brother (my uncle) Rodney.  She and Rodney were trying to figure out how the click the link on their cell phones to read my blog.  (I am trying to get my head around the fact that these two need and took an hour and half to conversed on how the click the link on the cell phone to read various webpages!) Both my Auntie and my Uncle were trying to, not only, console each other on the complex of how to use the new technology of the smart phone but also teach each other on how to use social media on their smart phone.  How many of you have family members like my aunt and uncle?  (That is funny shit, isn't it?)

Y'all, I am not going to call my Uncle because that is another ass woopin' I would be introducing myself to and I need to keep the current ass that I have.  I don't know why my aunt figured that my uncle would be able to help her out with something like that: he is as dead as a door knob when it comes to technology.  But between the two of them they still until this day, cannot figure out how to click the link to open the page. 

Simple instructions people: to open a link, just move the mouse over the attached link until it turns blue and then click it.  It will automatically open on another webpage.   Now if you are opening the link on a smart phone like my aunt and uncle, then the link itself is already blue and all you have to do touch it one or two times. This will be followed by a request as to where you want to open the link on: either Browser or Chrome. (Most of us have ready enter our password to use Chrome and have set it up to always be in use, right?)  Now explaining this to my aunt was like taking a beauty pageant queen camping.  NO! it can not happen nor can it be comprehend. 

For my Auntie Do, today's technology features are too advance for her even though the act of it is simple to do. For us tech savvy people most of us can not comprehend as to why they, referring to some elderly and to those who are technology challenge, do not get these simple features.  Yes, we can zip through them with the greatest of easy and that is why we love technology - because it makes our lives easier.  Am I not right?  Raise your hand if your are a gadget person?  If you have 5 or more of today's technology gadgets then raise your hand?  Hhhmmm . . . yeap!

My Auntie Do got ONE thing! A smart phone and she still can not figure it out! 

But y'all, for my Auntie Do, I am the one who is getting her ass kicked because according to her, auntie Do, I am the smart one of the family.  But does she not know that I have blonde moments too? Yeah I know how to configured switches and routers; and I know how to use Visio to create a network connection in an office of building; and I know how to do the math to create 1024 IP addresses from 255.255.252.0/22 in Class B IP address.  Aw hell people! I will just take the ass kicking from Auntie Do as I explain the simple stuff of technology.

 I need life insurance for my ass.  Is that possible?

The Reason for Striking?

So many of you know that I live in Milwaukee, which for me I am still trying to get use to. Why? Because having to live a long time in Chicago and have lived in Istanbul, Turkey, can you now understand the small factor here?  If you have read Research this Dum Dum! then you can understand why I am still trying to come to terms about the size of  the city.  Any how, for a while the Milwaukee County Transit System (MCTS) and the County of Milwaukee have been in talks regarding the bus drivers contract. There were so many things that did not know make common sense to me at all and has made me mad about the whole thing in general.

Now for those of us that take public transit to and from work/school, we know from first hand that sometimes the bus drivers will ask to be excused for a moment while they run to go to the washroom.  After all they are driving those buses for well over an hour time in one direction.  Of course they got piss or whatever, even I may need to take one after being on the bus for more than 30 minutes.   So I am wondering how insensitive of the board of directors to not allow them (the bus drivers) to have ample amount of time to use the wash room let alone have a decent lunch or dinner.  Those wide asses take an hour lunch, why can't they?   They are really the one who are providing that service and have to deal with the public on a daily basis.  But this is one small reason of many as to why the buses drivers are in an uproar.

Image your company telling you that they want to hire 100+ more part-time drives who will not be obligated to participate in the retirement fund pot.  Giving employment is always a plus however sacrificing your current employees is not.  Then to understand that they (the board) wants to change the current retirement benefits that is in place by ending it soon than the expire time and extending it as to when you can retire to receive the full benefit package.  I can see where this double punch can be a threat for the full-time employees especially since they are working really hard for their retirement fund.  From this last part of the sentence, since after July 4th about 22% of the MCTS drivers (those who have been there for more the 10+ years) have cashed in on the current retirement plan and quit all together. 

Now from what the news has been reporting that the average bus driver in Milwaukee has a salary of $62,000 a year. WTH!  I want to make $62,000 a year and all those who also would like to make $62,000 a year raise your hand!  But after talking to some of the drivers on the routes that I catch to and from work, many say that it only possible because of the overtime they often have to do.  There are some complaints in regards to the part-time workers who there now because some of them have called off work simply because they want the day off.  Well hell, let me do some overtime like that too.  But the bus drives are not just complaining about what they are asking for; it is because the board of directors are not willing to at least compromises on them.  And because of this non compromising mentality the bus union had declared a 72 hours strike on July 1 at exactly 3:00 am to July 4 at 3:00 am. 

Ladies and gentlemen, the action which I describe in the previous paragraph caused three things for us everyday people.  One, we had to scramble to fine other means to get to work which include many of us having to walk a great distance to work.  Two, some of us lost three days of pay, and three, a few of us simply lost our job.  And what was the two things that board of directors thought they could do for us everyday people to try to smooth things out.  They give us one day of free access on the bus system and depending on what kind of bus pass you had, you were compensated as much as $10.50 for those three days.  WTF!  Let me get personal for second (*sigh*). . .and say $10.50 does not compare to the fact that for those three days I lost $432.00 in wages.  Them f**kin fools played with my rent!

Now the two main men who are doing these damn negotiations are J. B. for the Bus Drivers Union and C. A. for the Milwaukee County. (For the protection of the two parties involved and two I do not want to be sued for having an opinion that comes along with freedom of speed!) Ladies and gentlemen, excuse me for a minute for I am about to get real on this one.  If I was Mr. J. B. (yes I got some inappropriate thoughts regarding this man) I would tell C. A. pussy ass to man up since he is always talking about what is good for the people of Milwaukee and that the money that he is dealing with belongs to the people of Milwaukee.  And as for J. B. with his pencil dick ass, needs to stop playing around with people's jobs.  The bus drivers themselves do not want to strikes because they got bills to pay and that mistress to suppose.  But wait, gets even better, towards the end of July, in the mist of negotiations, these two fools here said they will resumes talk on August 10th and the first thing that came out of my mouth was "Which one of these two asses is going on vacation?" 

Ladies and gentlemen, I do apologies for my insensitive speech in this piece, however no body likes it when someone else is missing with your money.  Can I get AMEN?  We all got bills to pay and mouths to feed.  We don't have time for stupidity nor can we ignore coming to compromise in the work place to get your employees to provide better services to your every day paying customers. 

Now negotiations here in Milwaukee are still on going between the County and the Union.  And I take it that things are not going well because I keep getting a different bus driver on my way home.  It is as if I am doing speed dating Monday thru Friday with a hint of Russian Roulette!

What I have learn so far!

In my Introduction to you piece I had mention that I have been wanting to write for some time and I wanted to write about my experience of living Istanbul, Turkey.   However upon me starting to write I started to come up with all these different ideals as to what to write about. When I started my new temp assignment, my job wanting me to do research on how to start a blog and maintain it for work.  You see my job has a blog but they were not doing anything with it, just sitting there waiting to be acknowledge.  I (at that time) did not know anything about starting a blog let alone maintaining one. So I started spending countless hours on research.  (After all I am the research Queen!) Reading valuable advise and helpful hints to expand my understanding as to exactly how blogging is done with the help of social media, it can help get the viewers and/ or make money from writing a blog.  Sweet! However I am not in it for that.

The one of the few things that I keep seeing is that when writing my blog make sure that I make it mine by being myself.  Ladies and gentlemen, are you guys for real?  Are you saying that it is ok for me to be myself in my blog?  That in it its self can be dangerous and the reason I am saying this is because I do wonder about a lot of things and I have a lot of ideals that I want to put on paper not just
in what I was originally wanted to write about. I definitely want to have fun with it and be hilarious in what I write.  I know that there will be sometimes where I would have to be both objective and subjective in what I write.(Hhmm!)  However anything and everything that I will write about will be written in sincerity and from my heart. Ok I might throw in some hormones (giggles. . .hahaha!), however I want people to know that I really do like to write because I believe that I can best express myself when I am being angry, aggressive, passionate, silly, and psychological in a common sense kind of way.  After all my blog is called "The Common Sense of It All!"

Another thing that I learned was that I should have at least a pipeline of 15 drafts set up and getting ready for publish onto my blog.  Now this is all cool and dandy if you are planning to post a piece a few time in a month.  So in my mind I am thinking that if I post about 8 pieces in a month's time, that 2 post each week, then I should be good, right?  Now take into consideration that people like have lives to live. And this would take some serious commitment on my part to actual sit my butt down and focus on writing these pieces.  With that said, I soon quickly started writing in short quick drafts and saving them so that I can finish writing them later.  Now for me this does make common sense to for the fact that I can add little by little while I am thinking about that topic and other topics. See the thing about writing is that you always have to go over what you are writing about and have the "I" dotted, the "T" crossed, and the punctuation in the right places.  it also causes you to do some extra research if you have to.  That will not always be the case with me because I am writing to express myself for everyone to view my mental picture. 

Now as I continue with my research, I am also starting to real understand the importance of using social media to work in my advantage. Sharing my blog on the major social media websites like Google +, Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn, Pinterest, and Stumble Upon would help reach people that I would normally would not have.  Though I am not too sure about LinkedIn because that is very professional website and what I will be writing about will not have any relations to it.  With Pinterest I would need to learn how to create those wedges so that you pinned my blog if you like on Pinterest. This was another thing that I had learned as I was doing my research on starting a blog.  And as for Stumble Upon, this is a new website to me so I really have to explore it some more.  But here is a contradicting thing that I ran across.  Some bloggers were saying that having too many social media can to bad for you.  Not understanding this piece of common sense at all!  However since I am writing for pure enjoyment, I will stick to the top 6 that I mentioned earlier.  And for those of you who are looking into blogging for money should do further research into Snapchat, Vemco and others.

This brought me to a question as to how would I go about organizing my social medias with my kind of schedule?  I am like everyone else; I work a full time job and I go to school full time.  I have a family life, a social life, and sometimes a dating life. (That is a strong sometimes!)   So in my research I recently learn about Buffer, Hootsuite, and Rignite and how they help me with spreading my blog across various social medias all at one.  For what I understand them to be as three different websites that can help you to monitor all your social profiles in a single dashboard as well as letting you to engage with your social profile from it.  But the thing with them is that there is a small monthly fee to use any of the three, and I would advise to everyone to really think about how you use social media before getting one of them.  I was not happy with Buffer because I was only able to add LinkedIn and Twitter; Google+ was not available to supposed however I can still add other social websites.  Rignite let you have up to 30 while Hootsuite allows you to have 35 social medias.  Now this got me to think about just how many social medias did I sign up for and now I have to make a list to understand what I signed up for out there!

I think the number one thing that I learned from my research is . . . be careful with your spelling and prevent typos, especially with Twitter! It is damn shame that we only get 140 characters to say everything.  However this is why proofreading is very important. To correct yourself before posting. Because you can't do rough drafts on Twitter!

WOW! I can not believe how much time and effort I am really putting into getting my blog out there to entertain people with!  And I am still researching because it is always good to have that knowledge in the back of your head for later situations. (After all I did say Research this Dum Dum!)  This acknowledge is going to help me to share my writing abilities, my wittiness, and my crazy thoughts with everyone.  Well, not everyone, only with those who have common sense.

Stay tune everyone . . . . (A smile with a wink!)

Research this Dum Dum!

I believe that I have found a new addiction to have that will not cost me a penny.  It can probably make me some penny if I do it right.  However if I am not careful it can create for me some difficulties that I am choosing not to have.  It all started when I decided to go back to school to get my associate degree back in Chicago in 2008.  Part of my homework assignments call for me to do some research on various things. I graduate with an Associate to move on to start working on getting my Bachelors, and then there were more things I had to start researching for.  My research started to expand beyond homework and into new interests that were slowly being developed.  From food, to wine, getting out and about around Chicago and into watching Korea soap dramas.  But then I moved to Milwaukee where my research came all about getting around this small town.  Yes I did say small town because that are less than 700,000 people living coming after living in Istanbul, Turkey with a population of 14.3 million people and Chicago with a population of 2.72 million people. 

Here in Milwaukee I find myself research about the history of the city as the culture that once exist here before coming to where we are now.  Reviewing the restaurants are a must especially since I found a place that will delivery ice cream; yes, ice cream! (Thanks Pizza Shuttle!) Watching the local news has provided some interesting bits for my to do some research on; the Milwaukee name itself has been interesting upon looking up.  And I would encourage everyone to take the time out to really good to know what is in your neighborhood, city, state, and country.

I am learning that the more research that I do the more things I am learning about, even though most of it has no interest to me, however it is always good to know some things.  I usually don't care for cars but lately I find myself getting excited over them.  I also get excited about researching major companies like Samsung (huge fan here!), Rolls Royce, and Jeremy Clark of Top Gear (him of all people!).  When I am on Google+ chatting with other members about various things especially about IT relate things, I always say that I recommend that they do the research to see what they find. 

Now my job, I am not an news anchor or scientist however I do feel that by doing the research on various things, even on those subjects that have no interest to neither you or I, however it could be very beneficial to us in the long run.  I think that men in particular should do extra research on women since they are often confused by us.  (Sidebar: being a woman does have it benefits and I love them!)

In fact I think that before some people open their months and say something that they have not otherwise say (and this would include me from time to time) should do some research first and keep their mouths closed later.  Because we live in a society where the information is right at our finger tips and some of us are choosing not the gather that information up to make us stronger.  What is the old cliche, "A mind is a trouble thing to waste!' and yet there are some of us who are literally refusing to use that very beautiful gift, are wasting our own mind.  But then again there are some who believe that they are full of accurate knowledge! Right!  It is called tunnel vision, break it so you can see the bigger picture here dum dum!  But then again there are those who do not have common sense and think that they are geniuses, right!  And there we go with that damn tunnel vision.  That is what leads to ignorance and non tolerance of others' behavior and inexcusable social behavior. 

So as I continue to do research for work and for school, I vase knowledge of whatever can be good for me and terrifying for my family. Why? because they want me to be done with school already!  Hahahaha . . . . maybe NEVER!!  There is simply too many things to be learned. 

This boy from Ireland!

Now usually I do not write about celebrities because I don't think much about them in that way or any other way, but come to think of it; I did have a whole fantasies thing with Simon LeBon and Nick Rhodes.  I may talk about them in good spirit or repeat a rumor that I do not believe in, and I will wish them happiness.  Of course if I don't like an actor or two, well there must be a reason.  However the kid that I am about to talk about in this piece has cause me to have mixed emotions which is quite an accomplishment because I do not do emotions. 

I first saw this kid (Sidebar: Yes I get to call him a kid because he is younger than the 5 years radius in which I would date him.) when I was living in Istanbul, Turkey (2001 - 2004) in the movie Bend It Like Beckman(2002)! I am a huge fan of Keira Knightley and I love it when she does time pieces.  I think she is at her most beautiful-ness when she does those kind of movies.  I saw him and I though he was a pretty boy with those eyes that can cause trouble for girls. Ok! I thought.  The next time I saw him I was visiting France (2005) and I saw him in Match Point and I was like "There is that kid again. My has he grown up and got himself a little manly man there.  Oh how nice to see him."  Being a fan of Woody Allen, I thought this movie was one of best piece after Small Town Crooks and Scoop (love Scoop!).

I saw advertisements for Vanity Fair, Alexander and Elvis but did not put two and two together because I was not interest in viewing those movies and I continue to see ads and reminders of Velvet Goldmine, which is another movie that I have not seem.  I did watch the movies The Emperor's Wife and Mission: Impossible III  but I did not realizes that was him. (Sorry sweetie!)  I was mad while watching Prozac Nation and I wanted to tear them kids a new ass!  However I felt in love with him in August Rush, but then I was like "Oh that poor baby.  You are breaking my heart!" "That damn kid!"  And let me tell you - that is when I started to get emotional over this damn boy! (Yeah, didn't I tell you that I do not do emotions?)

For the next years I was busy with the Illinois National Guards, work and school but I saw the advertisements for Tudor and I heard good things about the show including its nominations.  I also heard something bad going on with him personally around this time and I prayed that he got himself together and become stronger.  But I am sorry to say that I have yet to see the show however I did recently purchase the TV Series to watch later.  I did watch From Paris with Love, with him being the character of James; see I am long time fan of John Travolta however I did want to snack him upside his bald-ass head for the trouble that kid had to go through with his (Travolta) crazy ass.  (Smiling over here) I have to admit that kid did look real sexy in that role and it was enough for me to purchase it.

Sorry to say from 2010 and up until now still, I have been pretty busy getting my degrees and that both television and movies, I could not make time for until last year.  Now . . .how many of you paid attention to CBS when they broadcast the television series DRACULA?  I happen to catch it on episode 3 when he and Victoria Smurfit were going at it (Lucky BITCH!)!  (Sidebar: Where in the hell did these emotions come from?)  I was configuring a switch, writing out the subnetting for the ports when I  looked over and saw that scene and it made me forget what the hell I was doing.  It was enough to cause me to go through Cable on Demand and look for episodes 1 and 2, but then I got stuck on episode 1 with the bathroom scene; you know the one where he is coming out of the tub, getting ready for the introduction ball.  Yeah, that scene and who ever was the one behind the camera I need him to come to house and create that same scene with me coming out of the water like that.  OMG that was completely sexy! It was just enough to make a girl wonder . . . . can we play wash up? (DID I NOT TELL YOU BEFORE THAT I DO NOT DO EMOTIONS?)  BUT HELL!!

Watching Dracula cause more than emotions than I have to give! Mr. Alexander Grayson had me ready to pack my things, get a ticket to London and be his personal bitch.  That in itself is saying a lot!  This MAN portrayed Alexander Grayson as a strong, passionate, "I won't be Damn!" kind of man attitude. Lord have mercy and this is a good thing.  Mr. Grayson's manner was a six pack of whoop ass already open for a sip. (Hhmm, I want glass!)  I will not get too carried here because Dracula: The Introduction and series will be coming out soon. Oh yes I got some words for Mr. Grayson and the whole Dracula series. (NOW I HAVE TOLD YOU TWICE ALREADY THAT I DO NOT DO EMOTIONS?)

But let's move on about. (sighing for sec here!). .this Man today and his works that have caused me to look at him with a new fresh set of eyes. (See, I am single now and mama can put you on her lap for desert!)  Yeah, I heard some bad things about him, and I sure that during that time that something happen with him where he needed an outlet and probably did not know where to turn.  But that is his business and he is allow to express himself, after all he is human, just like the rest of us.  The positive parts that came from all that and it IS all good because from that negative period in his life, in these past recent years, we (the fan and the admires) have watched him become this superior actor that can adapt to preform in a variety of characters including those in 6 Souls which I so want to give him a beat down for creepy ass neck thing and for going after the child.  Yes, you will get the 6 souls and the host and I found this movie to be heaven for me in a psychological I took it apart kind of way. (Look for that piece in my blog later.) Just know that I had fun with it! (LOOK HERE! I AM NOT TELLING YOU NO MORE!  I DO NOT DO EMOTIONS!)

Let me come, and please do, to a closure of this piece.  I am so anticipating all of his future works which would include Stonewall and Damascus Cover.  I am praying that DRACULA will return for a second season because I so need a fix and badly! (I am buying a whole news set of towels just for that season!) And Francis, if you ever play another role like Valentine Morgenstern, I'll kick your ass!

Mr. Jonathan Rhys-Meyers.  I am wishing you much success . . . and food! Boy, is somebody feeding you over there? (A smile with a wink!) Take care sweetie!

Why take Revenge!

Now I am not one to seek revenge out on people for any reasons.  Yeah, I will cut them with a few words but to simple go after them and do actual damage to their reputation or cause some major bodily harm is way too much for me to do.  However I am one to say the I do believe in Karma and I have always say that what goes comes around, and it will come back to the person who did the harm to some one or to those who had not cause them harm in any way.  For me revenge is when some one who told you that they never do something in regards to you, due to one reason or another wind up having to come to you in humbleness and sometimes in shame. 

But that is not always the case especially in marriages and friendship.  Lord knows us women can be extremely vindictive towards our husbands (or at least I can be when I get marriage again).  We woman will try to and often success in taking everything away from him just so that he does not have to opportunity to share with that other woman. (Ain't that right ladies?)  However there are some husbands out there who knows how to take half as well and this often leaves the wife madder than before.  For example on the news about some weeks ago there was a story about a husband who wanted half of their possessions.  So what did he do?  He got his chainsaw and cut everything in half and this would included the couch, the televisions, the bed, the dressers, the refrigerator, stove, washer and dryer, and the plates, everything in the house which they have shared in their marriage.  Yes he literally split everything in the house in half.  (Sidebar: I want to know what the hell she did do to cause him so much angry?) 

I was on the website Reddit when I came across this joke:

There was a man who had worked all of his life and has saved all of his money.
He was a real cheapskate when it came to his money. He loved money more than just about anything, and just before he died, he said to his wife:
"Now listen, when I die I want you to take all my money and place it in the casket with me. Because I want to take all my money to the after life."
So he got his wife to promise him with all her heart that when he died she would put all the money in the casket with him. When one day he died.
He was stretched out in the casket, the wife was sitting there in black next to their best friend. When they finished the ceremony, just before the undertakers got ready to close the casket, the wife said, "Wait a minute!"
She had a shoe box with her, she came over with the box and placed it in the casket. Then the undertakers locked the casket and rolled it away.
Her friend said, "I hope you weren't crazy enough to put all that money in there with that stingy old man."
She said, "Yes, I promised. I'm a good Christian, I can't lie. I promised him that I was to put that money in that casket with him."
"You mean to tell me you put every cent of his money in the casket with him?"
"I sure did," said the wife. "I got it all together, put it into my account and I wrote him a check."

Now I had a boyfriend like him and I am so thinking about how slowly I can torturing him.  In what method to use because there are o many ways I like to try out on his butt!  And you know what is the sad part is?  That I had thinking about this for quite some time now.  Yes I have! And there are times I wish I could slip his ass an Viagra but nevertheless he is who is; and I am currently accepting new applications.

Now as a child growing up I often heard my grandmother say "Do unto to others as you will have them do unto you!"  At that time I did not understand what she meant until I reach adult hood and the older I get the more and more I find myself doing exactly that, treating those in the same likeness as I would want to be treated.  Though sometimes that is not often the case because we all will and do cross paths with some people who are just pure evil in their hearts and no matter have nice you are to them they remain evil.  I think that is where "what goes around comes around" come from and would you believe that many of us do not realizes that karma is visiting us at the time when things are not going way.  Most of us will cough it up to bad luck or something else not realizing that is Karma the lady herself playing and refusing you things that you are seeking. 

So if you don't mind revenge is not something I do not want to waste my time on.  Beside that I am not interested in blocking my blessing.  But who knows who will cause me to lose my mind, right?

Coming ahead this month . . . . .

Happy August people!  I know for some people this is the month that you have been waiting for.  Why? Because your kids go back to school!  And you are looking forward the having that peace and quiet for those few hours at home.  You will be able to get most of your house hold chores done, complete those long waiting errors without having the kids in your hair, and perhaps getting to salon on time for once. 

However with this month also brings a new set of goals to complete and those few remain tasks from last month to finish up on.  but this month I also want to discuss what is going on here in Milwaukee with the Bus drives vs. the city negotiations.  These negotiations have been going on for quite some time now and there has even been a 3 days stop drinking strikes. ( Don't get me started!) As I writing about this, I believe that it will come in 3 or 4 pieces; depending on how pissed off I get in writing it!
Of course I thoroughly having conversations with the buses drivers themselves in getting their put about all of this.

This month also wraps up for me in one more class finish for my Masters.  In 3 weeks I would have to take the finals; isn't it funny that you know when the final is coming but yet you are still not prepared for it?  However believe it or not that is when I need a bottle of Gray Goose to be sitting on my desk.  And as September slow itself to us, I have no ideal what class I need to take next term. 

What I do know is that for some us we better hurry up and use some of those PTOs we have left, get a head start on that school supply shopping, and make a list of the Christmas toys that you need to purchase now.  (Yes I said Christmas shopping.) But before we get that far ahead, for those of you who have teenagers in high school you should be getting ready for the Homecoming dance first. 

I feel for all the fathers whose daughter(s) are going on their first dance!  Mind wrecking isn't it?  So you got all of this month and next month to think about it!

Breaking the Cycle!

As a parent we always want the best for our child(ren)., and we start with educating them on things that we think that would be best for them to know as they grow up.  I was still a teenager when I became pregnant with my only child, Nicolas.  Did I wanted a child at that time?  No I didn't and it was my mother who said to keep him and that she would help me raise him.  My mother was also a teenage parent starting with me and a year later came my one of two brothers.  Now you are probably thinking that my mother why didn't she teach me not to become a teenage parent?   I am assuming that and I was right, that she did not know how.  She wanted to do my best with my life but she did not know to explain to me how to go about living life. 

Growing up with 3 younger siblings I saw the struggles that my mother went through, and in my head I knew that I was not willing to do some of things that she.  I knew in my head that if I was to ever have children that I would raised them in the opposite manner in which how my mother raised us.  I knew that when it came to relationships with both men and with my son I wanted to do them differently than what my mother had done.  I choose to put my son first because I did not want to be involved with gangs and to be addicted to drugs.   Therefore I moved to areas where I though I would not have to worry about son being persuaded by gang members.  My son had an imagination that was all about Pokemon and Gameboy so joining gangs did not fit in his lifestyle at that time, according to him.

As my son was going up and the things that I had to learn, I shared with him so that he would understand the difficulties of us staying alive.  I was thinking that if start now in teaching my son the things that he may need when he has kids some then he would be prepared in making the right decisions for his family.  I definitely wanted him to learn from my mistakes as we were both growing up.  And I proud to say that my son did not make the majority of the same mistake that I did when I was his age and is doing better in life that I did.

As parents we try to teach our children the tools that we believe that they may when they (the children) reach adult hood.  Sometimes we parents will receive heartbreak along the way as well as tears of joy and sadness.  We as parent lose out mind when we have to buried our children before they can buried us. Mainly we parents fill our children with hopes and dreams for them to carry out, and when they at a young age so does those hopes and dreams.

So for the time being we parents need to educate our child on the things that regret and the things that we miss the opportunity to do and say.  In today's life we can not afford to let our children make some of the mistakes that we did when we were young and we as parents can not afford for them not to learn from their own mistakes when they make them.  And most importantly we as parent need to teach our children about common sense.

Breaking the cycle starts with us parents in order for us to have better society and for our children to live a longer fuller life!

What was the point!

So Sunday, June 7 my friend and I with his daughter went to the Circus Italy.  (For those of you who don't know what it is, it is a circus without animals and lots of tricks and water shows.)  It was small and intimate for the audience to get involve with some of the acts.  The music that they played were all Italian musicians from the violist group Bond to Andra Bocelli, (Yes I know about Andra Bocelli!) and this should not be surprising to some of you that I would know some of the artists and understand that majority of the audience would not know who these artists were at all.  However the case, the audience especially the children enjoyed the show. 

Now you know how you are sitting there enjoying the show and there is always that one or two persons that shout out obscene gestures to the acts on stage. First time that person say something you laugh at it.  The second time you are like okay.  Beyond that you are like okay enough, be quiet, and shut the hell up!  Don't you want to just slap that person for the continuous of that person's behavior at the show?  Like that person is really ruining the ambouis of the routine.  Then to make it worst they don't get the clue that everyone has stop laughing at your gestures and are most likely saying to themselves for you to shut up already!  it was not like nobody in the audience did not know where this person was sitting because one, the arena was small and two it was not a full house.  So shut already! 

Now if I was one of the performers and I heard those rude comments, I think I would want to that person to tell that person to shut the hell up! And knowing me I would probably shout out back at that person.  But come to think of it,  we all can not stand when someone makes rude comments while we are trying to enjoy a show.  Even if we are at the opera, the movie threater, a comedy show or whatever the show is about we can't stand hacklers.  Some of us would tell that person to shut the hell up and we all know that sometimes would lead to a big fight where police may get involved.  Ruining the show for almost everyone.  So not cool Mr. Heckler!

As it stand there are a lot of people who do not care to go out and be around crowds due to the rudeness of others.  Why can't we all get alone peacefully people!  We all want to have a good time and enjoy event.  There are too many things out there of us to do and we should be enjoying them without having that one or two persons ruining it for others. 

I do know about y'all, but I like meeting new people and getting to know what they like as we are sharing a beer or Saki bommer.

Thinking of what?

Okay, I will be the first to say that I know that I am guilty of thinking too fast to type.  If some of y'all have not all ready seen my many typos and incorrect sentence structure, I am guilty as charge.  But let's rest our minds for a minute or two and let's think about why our minds be racing in the first place.  I know somebody (whose last name we don't know) is going to say that it is due the chemical reactions that is doing on in your brain and in our body.  Well, that maybe true however there is always a reason behind it why the Wonder Twins be reacting the way that they do.

Think about yourself during various times.  When I am at work, I am thinking about work unless otherwise (to be explain).  I am in school working on my master with each semester being 8 weeks cycle. I will be thinking about that week's assignments all the time even at work.   While I traveling to and from work my mind starts to or will be thinking about things at both work and school.  In my free time I am thinking about school however during happy hour I am only thinking about that drink and food.  We are all thinking about food most of the time, but some of us get real happy when 5 p.m. come for the day. and can tell who are the ones who really need that drinks by the way they be step-in to the elevator.   

For the other remaining time I don't think about anything mainly because thinking too much gives me a headache.  Thinking about certain things can causes you to become depress and often enough get you to want to be someplace else other where you are now.  (For me, I would rather like to be in Ireland with Jonathan Rhy-Meyers. Bite me baby! Bite me!)  In fact, a lot of us do this, your mind starts to wonder about things that is and could absorb our minds when some one else plants a seed in it.  Number one, I do not like those who plants the seed however at the same time if those seed can produce food for thought in a good way then I am all for it.  However number two, sometimes we will start thinking about things that are absolutely stupid to begin with.  but then we go on to spread that stupid thoughts onto others and then they start looking at you with stupidity.  (Don't do it!)   Thinking can cause us drama that we are likely to share with others and from that it causes even more drama.  Non sense right?  Think about it!

Let me give you an example: your BF tells you that you need to let your kids know that they need to respect your man.  However your man is lazy and living off of you; not doing a damn thing.  (he could not last long in my house!  Girlfriend here always keep a pot of grits!)    Do y'all see what is wrong with this picture?  (Sidebar: I do not want nor I am willing to deal with a lazy man living off of me?  Wayne Johnson was a good role of what a man should be.  And that is the man I am looking for!  With the exception of Jonathan Rhy-Meyers!)  But yet, there are some women who will ponder over this.  For real? See what I mean how thinking can something bring more drama than you need.  first you should not give your thoughts to that relationship unless you are being objective and two if she is stupid enough to let that happen then leave it alone.

I am all for thinking about fun, calm, beautiful things that will bring your a good piece of mind.  Thinking good thing most of the time brings good behavior towards oneself and others.  I believe that everyone should be thinking happy thoughts, for a moment and for a longer period of time, until some idiot comes along and spoils it for you.  However depending on what idiot says that you might either let him live or kill him with a stare.  Having a that good peace of mind is always a plus and it is what keep all or some of us sane.

I am going to end this with this peace of mind. . . . . Lord give me patience, because if you give me strength I'm also going to need a new identity and a one way to a non-extradition country!  One which I know that my family won't travel to preferable!

The Day from Hell!

We all have these days once and in while.  It is a day where anything and everything can and does goes wrong. And for some of us it is not just a day, it could the whole damn week, and for the very beautiful few fortune ones, you get the whole month. 

It usually starts off with something simply like your forgot your wallet, pickup the wrong set of keys or everyone's favorite - over sleeping that morning.  Now you know that from the moment that you woke late you are like "Man my day is going to be messed up!"  (Those are not my exact words but you get what I am saying, right?)  Then what's next for you that goes wrong?  The shirt that you want to wear is not ironed and you go to ironed it and what happens? Do you have a brown spot on that shirt?  Or do you have a hole it?  God said to be holy but depending on the size it might be a little too much for the day!  Let's move onto socks. . . I stop wearing them once the weather is warmer to as far into Fall that I can.  See in the Fall everybody can not tell if you are wearing mismatch sock unless you tell them, but at that point why you should carry about it anyway.  In gym shoes you can wear footies, in fact I recommend that you get a drawer full of them, it solves that mismatch problem.  How many of you tired to leave that house with zipper down?  And how many of you have success in leaving the house with your zipper down?  Go ahead raise your hand and admit that that action was apart of your day!  I feel your pain however make sure that you are wearing some impressive tighty-whites on.   That way you can at least get a whistle and phone number, right?  Moving on to the bus/car, pick your choice.  If you are like me and you are taking the bus to school\work then you know how important it is to be on time for work and missing that bus is not an option for us.  The because factor here is what time is the next bus coming and let's calculate how much of our pay is about to be deducted? DAMN that hurt! I am paying student loans so of course it hurt however for those of you who are paying child support, I don't feel your pain!  But I sure that it hurts just as much if not even more. (shuddering my should here with the oh well look!) But look we got it easy to those who have a car that pared out on the streets.  They either got a ticket, a boot, or their car towed.  Ouch in all three scenarios!  The because factor here is that is more money out of your pocket before you get that next pay check!

So far how many of you can emphasize on having these things happen to you on your day of hell?  And I am just getting started. . . picture this, you finally made it to work and you are 45 minutes late,  so you want to avoid that the manager at all cost, right?  Some of y'all know what actions you did to not get caught however as soon as you turned that corner and bam. .  . .you are busted! You are busted!  I know you are cussing under your breathe saying "DAMN!" Right?  Let me make matters worst for you and say "I betcha you had a cup of coffee in your hand and you spilled it."  Was it on yourself or on the manager?  And how many of you have a female manager?  On her shirt at that level and you know what level I am talking about.  The only thing comes to my mind is sexual harassment by coffee!  That is two write-ups, a verbal notice, and class in sexual harassment.  (Sidebar: This right here is a great topic for another time.  Stay tune!)  (And sorry to tells you boys this however the girl-on-girl harassment does not work.  At least to my acknowledge it does not.  But who knows! Right?)

The brutality of the day from hell is not done with you because it is not even noon yet and the day still has another 5 to 8 hours to play with you just to make your life painful for one day.  I am sure that some of you remember how the rest of your day from hell went while you were at work that is if you want or care to remember that day.  Most of us choose to forget because it is less painful to remember.  But as the day continues on you run into even more "I can not believe this s*** is happening today!" moments.  Where to start, hmmmm! How about how long did it take for you to get home?  Now either the buses were too full or they were running late, and traffic had to be a serious MF for you to take so long to be home.  Right?  You get all the way home and notice that you left your keys are at work!! Truth be told, this happen to me one time and I was like "what the hell was I thinking?"  I could not be angry with no but myself for this one.  Some of you had that moment too.  I know you are shaking your head like right, me too!

But let's go further into this day of hell, your old lady\man stood you up for date night so they can be with somebody else.  (I can feel the heat some of y'all now!) You was ready to kill them right?  You looking all good and that "You don't want to be with me!" attitude came out so fiercely with the crocked neck, hip bone done slip to the left side with the hand on and your face is like "No you didn't?"  You can't help but to walk away and go find you a drink.  Right? 

At the end of the hellish day, all you really want to do is go home, put on some comfortable clothing, grab some food and a nice drink and go sit on couch and watch your favorite show.  Right?  But you be damn again!  They done turn the cable off!  I already know what was said but that is how your day of hell done end!

Off the Grid!

Hello Everyone,

I am so sorry that I have been off the grid this week however I had to prioritizes my work.  Some of you know exactly what I mean.  There are simply times where we become bombarded with work and things of life that causes us to disappear for a little while or just until things get settle for us. 

For me it is always school work in the last two weeks of each semester.  See, I attend an accelerate program for my Masters at Keller University, and each semester is only 8 weeks long.  Midterms are always on the four week and finals, you guess it, are during the 8 weeks.  Depending on the topic I may have to go straight to Trader Joe's and get a few bottle of wine so that I can still objective.  Yes I need help with that! (Sidebar:  for those of us who are in IT, when it comes to writing those proposals you know you need a drink! Stop playing! I am writing them in school, I can image what you are writing in the real world!)  Now I need a drink! (Water has been excused!)  Let me describe the feeling that goes thru me after reading 30 pages straight out of 88 or more - numbness in the body and brain dead. 

For some of us focusing on what needs our utmost attention is time consuming in the thought process itself.   Focusing for other take lot of them where they need a nap.  I can say that has happen to me on many occasions where I simply do not want to think about nothing just for a few sec.  (Sidebar: how of you do this?  You sitting at desk or in a meeting and you close your eyes for just a sec and drift off into lala land.  You know that you drift because you caught your bobbin like yo-yo!)   The usual position that we are all familiar with is sitting at the desk with elbows on the desk and our hands crossing, and we lend our head up against our hands, and we close our eyes for just a few minutes.  The next thing you know someone is calling your name.  It's the boss!

Keeping to ourselves with just a few select friends is always good because you don't want everybody knowing what is going on with you until you have completed what it is you need to do.  The less people who knows what is going on the better because you don't have to hear some of the comments that people would that would cause you to worry.  Don't need the drama!! 

With that said, I am back to my humorous self with all these thoughts just flowing around in my mind to share with all of you!  Especially my family members down in Texas because Q can't be the only funny one . . . . . okay, yes he can! (Q you can stop twisting my arm now!)

Is that English? No3.

When I was living in Istanbul and I was taking a CELTA course at the British Council.  For my final paper I use the slave English to explain how when we speak, we don't always pronounce all the letters in a words.

Example:  I ougha hit yo ded in yor eye for wha yo jus sed but omlette it sid.


I am sure that some of you can say it the long way. But also know that some you are going to take a minute to truly understand it.  And would you believe that some us really do say something to this nature?

The Wayne Johnson Series: The Sex Talk!

As a parent I dreaded having to have the sex talk with my own child  and this is because I was still feeling the fear factor from when my mother gave me the sex talk.  How she did it is still imprinted in my mind.  She used a medical dictionary to explain to me and your brother.  She used the picture to gave us the imagination of where the two parts connect at and how the liquid gift finds it way to home to create the bun in the oven. So when it came it my child, I was like either talk to your friends or go talk to Brent.  And I was even more traumatizes by my grandfather giving us the sex talk!

I had to be in my early teens when my grandfather had this brilliant ideal to sit his grandchildren down (those of us who were enough, myself, my brother Man, and my two cousins Astonie and Quenton) and had the sex talk.  For those of you who knew what kind of man my grandfather was, you are already laughing.  For those of you had had the opportunity to be involved with one of my grandfathers famous lectures not only did you get the chills but you too are also laughing about this.

So image this: we are in the living room at 7627 S. Eggleston, Chicago.  The living room is huge with white velvet sofa set, matching coffee table set, and a brown piano next to the bay window looking out onto Eggleston Street.  And who remembers the light pink carpet?  (I don't know what the hell my grandfather was thinking but my grandmother did express dislike of the color.)  So there were us grandkids sitting around one side of the main coffee table and granddaddy sitting on the other side of the coffee table on the couch.  Of course he had his glass of E&J, a can of Old Milwaukee Best beer and a pack of Benson & Hedges cigarettes.   From that moment when granddaddy asked "What do y'all know about sex?" was the moment I had decided that I will never subject my own children to the same the conservation.  The looks on the four of our faces, you would have though that we would have preferred to have Castro oil instead.  Having constipation was not a good enough excuse to have saved us from my  grandfather's lecture.  The 45 minutes lecture, yes forty-five beyond broken leg having contraction labor sitting pain minutes about sex.  From him! The then patriarch of our family!!! You know that was a hell of lecture because I am still traumatize by it today!  At lease the sex talk that I had with grandmother came with roses! Meaning it was MUCH nicer talk!

Now towards the end of our 45 horrid minutes, my brother Lil Man decided to go to sleep on granddaddy.  For those of you who know, this is a no-no to do in front of Wayne Johnson. Why? Cause no telling what he will do to you.  Though us neighborhood kids knew what was his preference . . . . . that double barrel shot gun.  In this case, with my brother, granddaddy pour beer down his ear! We saw my brother jump so high without a pole and won a gold medal! Now how he handed was a different thing because granddaddy caught that head, and we saw something go across the coffee table.  I think it was Lil Man because he was no longer sitting next to me.  But due to my brother's action, we got an additional 30 horrifying gut-wrenching minutes more about sex!  Now do know that there were a lot of times where I had the opportunity and wanted to kill my brother, that should have been the perfect time to do it.  Not only did we get the extra sex talk but we also got torched torched with another lecture about disrespecting my elders when they are talking to us.

Now if my grandfather was still alive today . . . all hell I do not want to image the lectures that man could and would create for his great-grandchildren.  Nor could I ever forgive myself for letting them get torched that way.  Yes I could!  In all fairness they need to be lectured just like us older Johnson kids were.   And betcha bottom I be laughing my butt off too!!  Hahahahah!

But in sadness, that sex talk did not work on my brother and I don't think it worked on Astonie neither! It worked on Quenton and it sure in the hell worked on me when I had my child.  Cause he and I don't have that conversation at ALL!!  When he starts his talking his then I start talking mine, and then he is like "I'm done mama! You win!"  (Sidebar: No child wants to hear about their parent's sex life! Or their grandparent's!!) And I want to keep it that way!!!!