Family Drama

Hello everyone,

I know the that year is coming to an end and everyone is busy with Christmas coming and the New Year coming, oh there is just so much coming at once.

I am so happy to get away this coming Christmas that I can not possibility can not find a way to put it all in writing.  If you did not have family drama during Thanksgiving then it is waiting for you for Christmas.

And don’t you just love when you have to deal with family drama? Like parties involved expect you to be involve or they get mad because you try to apply some rationality to the situation that they are either not able to see or not willing to admit the solution.This is the killer part ladies and gentlemen, both parties or all parties believe that they are right.

Here is anything that is amazing about family drama: if you voice your opinion they get mad at you. And stay mad at you! Am I right?

Y’all I got family drama in the house but then again when is there never drama in the house.  Uncle against uncle, sister against sister, sister against brother, daughter against mother and sometimes younger uncle.  And what are we fighting about in the house? Probably about some of the same things that is happening in everyone else’s house: who did not clean the kitchen?, where is your share of the rent and utilities, wash your ass, take your ass to work, etc.

Actually how long does family drama last? Does family drama ever ends? In out house never thought we do keep the peace by everyone staying in their own room. Sometimes.

Can’t everyone just get along for the holidays and have some fun? Look, there are people in the whole who are in a much difficult situation than your family drama. Each day we hear something horrible from news and it is often heartbreaking.  Family drama is not heartbreaking but malicious. You lose your blessings and those blessing are very valuable.

So for this Christmas, for those of you who are a war with that certain family members, open your heart and give forgiveness. And together with that person walk into the New Year with new understanding and love.

To everyone around the whole, I wish a Merry Christmas and joyful Happy New Year.  And may we all ask the Lord to let us have a better year in 2019 than what we had in 2018.

See y’all in the New Year.

Being that Empty-Nester

Okay to all parents who are sitting around wondering what do I do now that the kids are gone? Surely most parents have thought about this question. “ What do we do once the kids have moved on with their lives?”  I did not have to ask that question because I could not wait for Nick to get his ass out the house and stay out!! I was feeling a new sense of freedom dancing around around the house and emptying a bottle of wine in my own celebration.  However that was me and you may have your own ideal as to what you want to do. It is just where to start, right?

I think I tired several times before I have to force him to not return.  (Well, he had already enrolled in the Army to go full time so I thought it was the perfect opportunity for him to get his shit in order).  And I am so glad that he did.

However I was already doing the empty nest thing before Nick even finished high school.  I had joined the Illinois National Guard and I was release with an honourable medical discharged.  I was 37 when I join and please don’t ask what was I thinking at that time. But I can tell you this that was the best decision that I had done for I had learned how to get myself in shape and I why should not quit something because I am tired or I feel like I can’t do it.  Going through training I learned that I can do a lot.

When Nick left home I did not have that sense of “Oh my baby is leaving me!” Mines was more of “It took you this long to leave.” followed by “Why is the hell did you come back?”  Now don’t get me wrong, most parents were in tears when that only child or that favorite child left home. But we parents have to let them spread their wings and live their life, and we are to be there for when they fall. (That was more easily written then the actual trails of events that could occur once they leave.)  Some events in our children’ lives might be similar to what we have went through in our own lives and that is where we can share some wisdom with them and perhaps give advice to other parents who might be encounting that similar problem, however there might be some events that might leave other parents shaking their heads followed by “I am so sorry that your child is crazy!”

Now we have to some parents who are not empty nesters yet, and I bet that the father is doing the countdown as to when their will leave home for good. Why? Because that child is out of his pocket!  He can now get down and dirty with the Mrs. without the kids being around. He can around to buying that motorcycle that the Mrs. will tell him to sale after 3 months. Or maybe the Mrs. might have some plans of her own like change that kid’s into her new closet for her shoes or expanding the kitchen.  Then after some time later the Mrs might say or will say “Go bail your child out of jail!” or “Pay the boy/girl’s rent this month.” or “Help him pay this month’s child support.” or something.

Isn’t that the point of being an empty nester is for your child(ren) to leave home so that they will learn to solve their own problems without them constantly going in your pocket?  You have that extra money to do whatever you want with the hubby or wife. Aren’t you as parents are suppose to be going on that romantic cruise or on that trip that you have been waiting to take?  I am sure and I am hoping that some of you did as well as current empty nesters having a bucket list made of all the things that you wanted to do, learn and try. On my bucket list is visiting Ireland, South Korea, and China. Learn how to hack(hacking) and learn to write a code. (Like I don’t already have some of cousins thinking that I work for the FBI. haha haha haha) Love it!

My Auntie said that the first thing that she wanted to do was party, and I can honestly say that she has not stop.  Get “Naked and run around the house” is a thing that most older parents said they wanted to do when their children left the house. To walk around the house in one’s boxer shorts with the Sunday newspaper in hand while sitting on the couch on a sunny Sunday afternoon waiting for the game to start. Dating freely without having the kids around to give their utmost objective expressions or the tyrant behaviors was another thing that someone wanted to do.  Have food to eat was another wish from an empty-nester. Haha haha, now I can relate to this one because Nick would sometimes come home with his friends and they eat me out of house and home. Because kids do like to eat, they might be picky, but they do eat a lot. And now that I think about it, as a empty-nester, we get to spend less time at the grocery because we are not shopping for the kids. (Lord, that is subject all by itself.) And what about the amount of laundry you don’t have to do any more! But then at a certain age they should have learned how to wash their own clothes.

All I am saying is that when the kids leave for college or whatever advantage their choose to live, let’s be there to support them (the kids) but at the same time have the ticket to have lots of fun.

“Shake your groove baby, shake your groove baby, yeah yeah!” (Peaches and Herb y’all) Show them how you do it now!”  (repeat)

Work Locations (Would you travel for work?)

In all my 20 years as a contractor I have spent most of that traveling to and from a job from one location to another with one or more cities.  So I am asking you how far would you travel or are willing to travel for a job?

So what prompt me to write this piece was one I was on the last bus for home and there was this lady young who was still young in her mind. There was also a third person in this conversation and she was able the same age as I am.  Anyway, somehow our conversation went to where do you work at? So the young explained that she worked at Walmart, not in our neighborhood but somewhere else. She ask asked the other older woman where she was calling from her job and the other woman responded with that she was traveling from Addison, Texas for her job.  And when the young lady ask me where job was, I explained that I worked in Fort Worth (that is 42 miles in distance). Then the young lady responsed to both of us “There is no way in hell I would travel for any job regardless of the pay”. (Please keep in mind that she was 21 yrs old, she is still young.)

When it come to work, most of us know that you have to go where the money is. Or for other reason we choose to accept a job, and it may not be about the money but the job opportunity or status in which it holds.  We get to that job by any means whether it is by car, bus, train, or plane like what Tom Joyner did when he traveled from Atlanta to Chicago to do his show in the late 1990's or like today with Mr. Steve Harvey. (But some us don’t have Tom Joyner’s or Steve Harvey’s money.)

If you have been to Chicago t hen you know they have a huge transportation system in place that runs 24 hours with the exception of the Metra which starts running around 4 a.m. to about 1 a.m. depending on which line you are riding at the time.  In Milwaukee, their first bus run is around 5 something in the morning with the last bus running in the 1 a.m. and Dallas has the same time system as Milwuakee however Dallas DART system can be compared to that of Chicago.

Why did I add that part in about the cities? Because I don’t have car and I have never brought a car, and I did not let that be my excuse as to why I could not get around for work.  Those with a car, some of them will not be willing to even travel a distance for a job. But they will to go shopping. People keep asking if I am ever going to get around to buying a car. Mostly not however I will get faster than getting a specific other in live.

I would say that I have spent most of my 20 years as a contractor traveling to from point to point for work.  While living in Chicago, most on my assignments were within the downtown area. I would get one or two jobs that would call for going to one of nearest suburbs like Naperville or Joliet.  I once had several positions for Pearson Education which was located in Glenview, IL. I had to literally travel through the Chicagoland and past several small towns to get to Glenview by Metra. That was some 30 miles at one point that I had traveled for work. My last assignment at Pearson Education, I was traveling from Milwaukee, WI to Glenview, Il and to go from Glenview to Chicago from school and ended my day by traveling from Chicago to Milwaukee.

Was I tired during that last assignment at Pearson? Yes, I was.

While temping at my last assignment, I met a co worker who lived in Waxahachie, Texas and came to work in Fort Worth, Texas, that is some 38 miles between the two cities. There was another worker who lived in Forney, Texas which is about 50 - 53 miles depending on which way, East or West, you are traveling at the time. Besides them, I have meet others who were traveling at an even greater distance to come to work. But here is what I learned about all of them when it came to this company. They are not just working at this company to be working here but they all have worked for this company for more than 20 plus years.  So throughout the years they have transferred from one position to another which mean that they also had to transfer from one facility to another regardless of where that facility was located.

Now I have living in the Dallas area for 2 years and I have learned of areas that some of my family members who have been here for 19 -20 years have not known or knew nothing about.  With the help of DART, Uber and Lyft I have learned how to get around Dallas not only for work but also for entertainment.

Isn’t that just sad?  So not my fault that they don’t get out much. Or is it the fact that I can not keep my ass at home. (Who cares?)

Well, in my days of riding the TRE to and from Fort Worth, oi read a few books to pass the time and one of them was from my Twitter friend, Rajiv Bakshi is the author of the book “Journey from Guwahati to Machhiwara”.  The book is about his journey to work and the things he encountered at work, and also about some of journeys of his life. I enjoyed it some much that I brought two copies.

But was something to think about when looking for that next job.  How far are you willing to travel for it?

And on that note Ladies and Gentlemen, enjoy!!

My Dearest Greg,

Often I think that instead of using today’s technology to break up with my so call boyfriend that perhaps I would need to go back to the basic of writing him a break up letter.  You know the art of writing a letter is so lost in the technology that we are using today and not mention that we are forever changing the vocabulary that we have been using for years.  What would I put in the letter and what reasons would I give to end this so called imaginating relationship that we had.

This would be my letter:

My Dearest Greg,

I am writing this letter to you to explain to you with a not so heavy heart. In this letter it contain all the things that I have been wanting to say to you for some time but did not have the heart to write them on Skype. Since that was our main communication.

Let me first say and I believe that I have told you that I appreciate the fact that you always look out for me when I am on my way home. Through when I get off of the TRE across the street from your house your punk ass, when you are home, won’t invite a girl. So wrong!  Sometimes I love the fact that you tease me is such way that I truly want to snack the fuck out of you for not following thru with these teases. So hate a man who can not or do not know how to follow through on a tease. I had to buy batteries.

I do appreciate the fact that you have given me a year of good communication but that is all your ass has given me. Yeah, you did see me a few times however what I need is something your ass was not willing to give to me and that was time for companionship.  Your physique is nice and strong however the rest of you was small enough to fix in my bed.

I would not like to think of you as a male chauvinist pig who has on many occasion has left me feeling lonely.  There is a saying ‘What one man won’t do, another will.” I don’t know what it was that you would not do and at this point I do not care because you did not do it with me, and there were plenty who took your place.  Thank God for batteries.

I say “let’s go to this event or that event’, it was always no with you. So there came a point where I stop asking you became that guy that I kept in the hood while I went and played others.  I had plenty of lunch and dinner dates that did not involved you. What a shame that you choose for your unknown reasons not to hang out with an intelligent woman like me.

I know that I can be bold and direct with my words however I can also be soft with them as well. I am a given person.  Okay that is to a certain extend, let me not lie about that. I have great conversation, there is not a topic that I can not talk about or play dumb in knowing anything about it (and that is a damn shame that sometime I have to play dumb to accommodate some men’s ego.) Yours came to mind.  And speaking of damn shame since when does a man became scared of a woman. Upon being told that I was a scary woman (first let me get oven that and come to understanding that I am a scary woman). I so wanted to take off my shoes and beat his ass with it. Then he and you would understand just how scary I can be.  And that would have given me a new excuse to buy a new pair of shoes.

There are somethings that I am cable of and you will never know what they are.  You will not know how much of an amazing woman I am. You will not know what I can bring to the table to enhance your life. (I said your life and not mine because I already have do plenty in mine.) And I said bring to the table and not poison you . . . .though that would have been nice.  There are somethings that I will not mention because I do not need additional training but you do in area. Thank you God for batteries.

Look here Greg, I am a full figure woman with a brain and plenty of talent. If you did not know what to do me than you need more practice than I thought.  And again thank you God for there are batteries. And social media. . . . yes a girl can get off on social media.

So bye boy and improve your life. This girl has got to keep it moving.

**If we can only write exactly what we, and some of you do, really want to say.  Well, in a roundabout way I just did! (Smiley face with a martini!!)

Now as some of you are reading this mean break up letter, you are probably wondering why I did not use the names Tom, Dick or Harry? Well that is simple, they are always busy just like Greg.

Preparing for Natural Distasters

Would you stay in your home when you know, like everyone else in the nation knows, that a hurricane that is a category 5 heading towards state (city)? If you decided to leave, where you would go and important items would you take with you?  

I am bring these questions up because what has happen with the weather situation over in the Carolines with Hurricane Florence. But not just in the Carolines, how about what has happened in the Bahamas, Puerto Rico, Louisiana, and the southern part of Texas in Houston.  These areas has and will continue to experience more hurricanes in the months and years to come.

Some of these hurricanes like Hurricane Florence and Hurricane Harvey came with such devastations that cost which is more millions than the current Lottery, that is needed to be collective in order for those communities to rebuild again.  When you see those who are impacted by these devastations your heart either goes out to them or you are thinking “What fool would stay in the damn storm?” Though everybody has their own reason as to why they are willing to ride out storm, both literally and figuratively.

So the question that I bring to you is would you stay in your home when you know that a hurricane is coming towards your city?  Let me be sarcastic, I will not be living along the East Coast or the southern parts of any state that is connected to the Gulf of Mexico.  (Hell to the NO!!) I will go visit for 3 to 6 days but that is it. I am going to consider Garland (Dallas) safe from all major nature catastrophes for now.  And only for now.

But to further answer the question, I would leave and I would take with me all important documents such as birth certificates, divorce certificate, degrees, and other documents.  I would take some dresses, some shoes, and some jewelry. I would leave all bills and ex boyfriends there. I would also leave my ungrateful child and my shrew-ass mother or mother-in-law.  

Now where would I go is the next question that I would be ponding as I am packing.  I guess that would depend on what is in the bank account at that time, which would apply to many people. (Sidebar: as I am sitting here writing this piece, I better also make a mental note to talk to the back about an additional saving account for that reason.) I have been saying that if I move again, I would put all my things in storage and get a ticket to somewhere in Europe.  So that third question would would be that ideal place in mind at the time of the hurricane? And I will be like this would be a good time as ever to go. Maybe. If I do go, where, the exact location would be the next decision to think about. For the time being, I am going to consider Ireland, Luxembourg, Spain, and especially South Korea because of my two new boyfriends: kimchi and Soju.   

But here in the states, where would you go if you could not make it to oversea or would not consider it. (For some people getting on a plane for that length of time would be too much! I believe a new alcoholic is born with every overseas flight.)   Would you go live in the snow storms of the North like Wisconsin, Michigan and the other states up there with Canada. How about going along the West coast like California, Idaho, Oregon, and Washington states. They get a lot of fog and rain there from what I have heard. You could go to Florida, Louisiana, Georgia, Mississippi and Alabama, however do note that they too also get hurricanes in the Gulf of Mexico. This would affect the southern part of Texas. Then again you can go to Nevada, Arizona, New Mexico and Utah where they are hotter then hot. Nevada would be my bet because you can truly become rich and go broke in one night there.  Now I know that I have not named some states and that is because I don’t know them too well. However the case, one of these states has got to be that alternative state for you to retrieve to live in when them storms come riding through.

Lastly, there is that question that can only be answer by when the huge storms and everything that come with it has passed and settled.  When you can return home to view the damage from the hurricane, 1) do you want to return home to see what is left or 2) do you care to see left is standing of your home?  If I am in Europe I would not give a rat’s ass as to what is left to be rebuilt. Because what took me years to built with my hard earn love would be destroyed in a matter of hours. My heart and mental state would be destroyed, so I could not imagine what those people are either thinking or let alone feeling when they return to home to see the destruction of their home. And to rebuilt again after again because of the storms that come thru yearly, I guest and can only guest because I have never been in those shoes, would be utmost devastating.

Now I am not really trying to make light of this tragic event but really we should think about the “what if” scenario if it should ever happen to your city or state. Are you really prepare to deal with any natural disasters that come your way?  Regardless if it is a hurricane, an earthquake, a snow storm, El Nino or a fire. Are you prepared for that and is there any way that we prepare for something like those as I described?

So, again I am bring these questions to you as to what would you do.

My Scary Moment with My Mother

What I am about to telling you would be one of the most scariest moment in my life.  It frightening me so hard that I even cried at work and I am very good about holding my expressions in. . . .sometimes.  But this was something that I was not ready to deal with nor did I ever thought that something like this could ever happen.

On this particular Tuesday was the day after I had brought my mother home from the hospital.  She had 2 slip disc in her spine repaired and aligned with screws so she was still under some influence from the medicine that she was taken.  Between my auntie Do and I we were trying to be very careful with her because of the surgery. We were seeing that everything that she would need be in her reach including her cigarettes. (Lord knows that we are trying to get rid of those things.)

I had just got home and went straight to my mother’s room where at that time she was talking to Aunt Do about bar-be-queing.   Okay, if that is what she wants to do. No point in robbing her what remaining life pleasures that she can still enjoy. She looks up at me to greet me and asking me to help her getting to the bath.  As her child, yes, I protested but I still putting my things down and went into her bathroom to start her water. Once I had her water ready, I helpped her get ready and into the tub.

My mother was conscious and alert when I said to her that I was going to run my things upstairs to my room and come back down.  She said okay, so I did exactly what I said. I ran upstairs with my bag and shoes. Threw my shoes in my closet and bag on the side of my bed.  Grab my cell phone and Kindle, and headed back down to my mother’s room.

So I was sitting my mother’s room while she was taking a bath. And I hear her having a conversation with herself.  I asked her was she okay and she respond with yes. I hear the water moving as she is washing herself.

So I am starting to play my game on the my Kindle when I noticed that she was talking any more.  I yelled out to mother “Are you I yelled again “Mom, are you okay in there?” and again I got nothing.  So I put the Kindle and go into the bathroom to see my mother passed out in the tub. I catches her head before it goes underwater and she drowns herself.

I did not have time to get emotional. The first thing that came to mind was to let the water out in the tub. That was a stretch for me since I had her head in my right and used my left hand to remove the stopper to let the water out in a long tub.  I was able to pull my mother up and get her in a sitting position in the tub where she could not fall over into the water. The water had cleared enough to where I could run to the stairs that lead to the upper floors of the townhouse and scream “Auntie Doreen”!”.  I heard auntie saying “Coming, coming!!” as I am running back to my mother in her bathroom. Along the long back I grab a few towels to help pick her up because she is covered in baby oil-like substance that made it hard to grab and lift her out of the tub.

I grab the upper part of my mom’s body while Auntie step into the tub to grab her legs.  What pissed me and my Auntie off was that fact that my mother had some much stuff in her bathroom leaving no room to room about in it. But between Auntie and I, we managed to get her out ot the bathroom and into her bed. We then tried to dried her off and put some pjs on her.  The interesting part was trying to put her diaper on. Because she was dead weight, it was really difficult to get her to stand up and put on the diaper, let alone pull it up on her. However, the case, Auntie and I got my mother dressed, ready for bed and in bed in a comfortable position.

After making sure that my mother situated, we checked to see if she was still breathing. But let me make this clear that during that time when she was passed she was able to respond to me that is how I understood that she was somewhat still with us.

My Auntie and I had to take a few minutes to collect ourselves after this.  About 10 or 15 minutes later I was overwhelmed with emotions as I was telling my girlfriend Sonia what happened.  She was shaking that I was. When I went into work and started to tell my lead admin what had happen the previous night before, I broke down in shock and the only thing I could for the rest was finished crying here and there.  Again, I was overwhelmed with emotions.

During the rest of that week and into following week I was scared to let my mother take a bath.  And she hates taking showers, she feels that she does not get clean in a shower nor can she relaxes in a shower.  “Mother! I do not want to you relaxes in a shower! I want you clean.” But eventually I give in and let her have her bath. Why? Because it is her choice in how she wishes to take care of herself.

Weeks after this event, she has twice passed out in the tube where my Auntie and I had to pick her up out of the tube and onto her bed. Recently we learned that she has been having these seizures and because she has been having them for so long that her seizure meds sometimes works.

It has now been a  few months since this has happen I can not escape the image of seeing my mother like that. Many things has come to light in regards to my mother's health, and we that she does need 24 hours care because I am now fully aware as to how often she has these seizes and it is frightened to know that there is pretty much nothing you can do because they happening way beyond her control.

Can you commit a Crime?

So when I came across this question: What is the most serious law you’ve broken doing something you thought was morally right, wouldn’t hurt anyone, or was no one’s business but yours?  How bad would the punishment have been if you’d been caught and given the maximum sentence?

I was first like “Let me get a parking ticket first before I start thinking about doing something more serious that would retain to the law.”  That’s right yours truly here has never had any tickets from the police or even broken any law. I am a chicken shit when it comes to the law.

Hell, let me get a speeding ticket while I am at it! There are some of you who are so much more advanced in this law breaking thing. That I am just going to find a corner and sit there.

But let’s think about the jury and if you were on the jury, would you be willing to convict a person for something you didn’t think should be consideration a crime?  If you are like me, then you hate it when you when that notice telling you to come down to city hall to be selected for that wonderful honor, right?

In our society today, there are so many things that can be considered as crime. Without knowing. Most people think that even shitting is a crime that should be convicted. (I guess that depends on where you are at when one is taking shit and the time of day in which one is taking that same shit!) However, in our news we see that some crimes are being overlooked for one reason or another.

To be a jury, I guess one would have to have little or some kind of understanding of morals and what they are.  I found two definitions of “morals”: 1) a lesson, especially one concerning what is right or prudent, that can be derived from a story, a piece of information, or an experience.  I think this where we as people are always sharing our own experiences or someone else’s story hoping that someone else will learn from it. (And we all know that sometimes people hear what we are saying and other times our message goes through one ear and ot the other, right?)  And 2) a person’s standards of behavior or beliefs concerning what is and is not acceptable for them to do. (I can believe that this second definition can be the national anthem for many hypocrites.)

We see on the news that our society cries out for justice whether is was moral or not, but for the pain of how they lost that love one.

Which would bring me to the criminals who either don’t have morals or do not understand what morals are, or have said fuck morals all together.  Some of them kill for any reasons, steal for the fun of it, and do what they want as a hobby. Now these three things is something that I don’t have the nerves to do and some of y’all are with me on that note. And depending on which country you live in will determine the severity of which the punishment is given.

In some of our states they have abolished the Death Sentences all together however in some situation that Death Sentence would be the appropriate punishment for that person who commited that hinderous crime.  I am just saying! That the punishment should fit the crime.

So to answer those two questions at the beginning of this piece; I have never committed a crime, do won’t to however I do have a family that is pushing me there.  Then again who doesn’t have family members that would cause you to lost your insanity.

Question 5 - Who Wrote What?

In this world of technology and as many homes become or start to become a computer savvy with the gadgets, I am wondering how that is working out for some of you. (Haha haha)  If you have not master that smartphone then there is no way that you can conquer that new smart refrigerator or stove. GE might bring good things to light but simple instructions is not one of them. (Haha haha)

My mother wants the new iPhone.  She just master how to use a FireStick, there is no way in hell that she will be able to use a new iPhone to it fullest potential! She only does three things on her current phone: talk, text, and disable apps that she does not understand how they work for her.  But she the new phone to put Uber and UberEats on it. That is all she care about besides being able to receive pictures on her phone. I don’t know how she manage to mess up the setting to receive pictures. But we will see how it goes when she receive her new Android phone. (Haha haha!)

Okay I got a question for everyone and it is a question that has thrown some of us geeks off track slightly.  How would you react, knowing all that you know about computers, if you learned that a sad and beautiful poem that touched you deeply had been written by a computer?

Think about this question first before you answer that.  Most people would be like “what the hell else can the computer things do?”  Some of you would be like “I would not put it pass it because computer are taking over everything in our daily lives.”  Some of you might be like “if that is the case then I can use the computer to write my love letters or apologize letters to my girlfriend/wife.” (Haha haha, that is funny! Your ass is still in the dog’s house.)

What is wrong with buying a card from Hallmark? They still make cards for all occasions including the “I am thinking of you!” card which some of you should use before getting in trouble.  Better yet, what is wrong with you just simply saying “Honey I was wrong and I am sorry.” Don’t you dare ask if you can be forgiven! Really!?!?

Better yet, why can’t you write your own love letter with your true feelings? A woman (or girl) would appreciate knowing how you truly feel if and when you write your own letter. Some of you might get a real good outcome from it and some probably would not, however it would be better than you having the computer writing your love letter. The outcome from would be greatly different.

But let us not be surprise as to what computers can do these days.

Where would you live? Question 4

While reading the Book of Questions I came across this question that had me thinking for a few days. Come to think of it, quite a few questions in the Book of Questions has cause me to really think about them.  But this question I really have to answer in many points of views.

Ignoring all financial considerations, would you rather spend the next 5 years confined to an urban mecca like New York City, or a beautiful, isolated town on the California coast?

First let me speak on my own personal view on this question: neither.  They are both expensive to live at because where do I want to spend my money at or on . . .FOOD!  Eating at various restaurants is what I love to do and I would have a fit if one, I could not find a good restaurant living in an isolated town in California and two, having to wait months to get into a good restaurant while living in a city like New York City.  Yes, for me food would be the key.

But let me say what a lot of us would be thinking about both California and New York City.  A few or many are waiting for that one earthquake that would cause California to fall into the Pacific Ocean. It is not funny but it is the joke! The coast line along California is very beautiful but that damn joke in annoying to have in the back on one’s mind. With New York City one of two things can happen. One being that one year a really bad snow storm comes along and hide the city for a year or two. Or two, if the icebergs in both North and South Poles should melt away completely causing a huge water surge that could completely take the city underwater.  Another thought to have in the back of one’s mind. (Haha haha!)

(Just think about it!)

If I did not have to consider having those adequate finances then I would be doing some research on which state would be the best to live in would be advised. Of course, that almighty JOB would be very sequential to one survival regardless of where you live.

If I was rich, I don’t think that I would want to live in neither location, however I would find a city that I find comfortable to live in.  Though most people would want to live in a big city like New York or Miami or Chicago. If we go out the United Stated, I think most women would prefer Paris or London. I am going for London myself if I was rich. But now that I think about I think I would have a house in somewhere in the states and one in London, and just travel to everywhere staying a week here and a week there.

Though I am sure that many of you do have somewhere in mind as to where you would live at if you were rich or even if you could ignore all financial considerations, you have an ideal as to where you want to be living at.

Take a moment to think about that question that I asking in this piece. What would you do if put in that position?  I’m curious.

Until next time . . . .

Obsessions!!

So I was talking to some friends about things that we are obsessed with. Everyone one of us have something that we obsessed about, take a moment to think about what your true obsessions.  Mines is watching tv shows from Korea. Occasionally I might catch a good one from China or Japan. Many of us have obsessions that is beyond the normal land what I mean by normal is afford; like collecting art, stamps, tattoos, diamonds to name a few. However let me narrow it down to a few obsessive things to be obsess about. If you had to be obsessed with one  of these things like money, sex, sports, religion or food, what would it be?

In my mind here is what I am thinking: Money kills!! You have people who are so obsessed with money that they are willing to killing a family member or their best friend. A stranger killing another man for his millions is very common. We see it all the time in the television shows. That is why if I ever win the lottery I am not telling my family or friends. Why? Because some of us know that the more money you have, the more problems you get. You got family members who think that they are entitled to get a piece of your good fortune. So they find a way to take that money away from you even through the courts. Though money is necessity to pay those damn bills, pay that car note or fix it, and to purchase our favorite foods with because we got to eat.  While most people spend more money on gas, I spend mines on Uber or Uber Eats. Overall most of us think that money is the root of all problems, and yes it is! That is why most of us have 401Ks.

When I was younger I was obsessed with sex. Now, I am at the age where I am ready to cut his off if he gets too happy it. If I become pregnant at my age, I am cutting his off. If he touch that Hennessey, I am cutting it off. And I love the person who invented batteries.

Now I have traveled around the world and have meet some serious sports funatics. Over in Europa a lot of killings be going on over some serious football (soccer) games. Here in the states, we just get injury with a flying baseball or a leaping quarterback. If you lucky you might get run over by a basketball player.  It amazes me that real sports fans will travel for the favorite team. The amount of money they spend on items for their favorite team like jerseys, hats, scarfs and jogging outfits, etc. The amount of money they spend tickets to the games as well as tickets for the flight to go to the game in a different cities or countries. They even know all the statics involving previous games.  I have a hard time understanding the statistics surrounding my neighborhood.

With all due respect to everyone’s religion regardless of your ethnicity, this is one subject matter I will not touch. There are people who are far more serious about their religion than they are about their football. Nope not touching it. I wish everyone regardless of what religion they belong to, good luck and peace.

As for food, this is a love affair that everyone has including the babies. It is a subject that I would like to spend my life with being in love.  You know when you have a full understanding of how much you love food when you start sounding like Fred Flintstone, “Where is my dinner, Wilma?” With today’s food some of us are obsessed with various ethnic foods, certain dishes, variety of popcorn especially from Garrett’s, certain restaurants.  From that burger to the fried fish, to the barbecue, to which Mexican restaurant has the best tacos. C’mon now you know what particular food you have a fetish for. Mines is Pho with filet mignon, Turkish pizza, chips and salsa, oh my list just goes on and on. The problem is finding a man with the same stomach as me. (Many have tried and have failed!!)

When it comes to food, I am not single minded about that and is open to trying food items. I appreciate the chefs that create new food items for us to try.  I appreciate the various ethnicity in which food can be found in with its various spices to create all new taste buds for us.

So I think that I have made it clear as to what I would have a very strong obsession in/with, that being food. So I am going to pass the question to you: of the five choices that I named at the beginning of this piece, which one would you have an obsession with? Or do you have one that is not on the list? Either way what is your obsession?

Question 2: Child's Toys!

For those of you who have small children, because my child is old and with his own child now; what would you do if your child’s favorite toy, a talking doll on top of that, start trying to convince your child that she/he needed a new friend, and that new friend is the next doll in the company’s line of dolls?

I don’t have any small children but I do have a mother who keeps asking me to buy her a doll. Please understand that I am not referring to Barbie. I had to explain to her that the import fees would way beyond her disability check.

So we parents know that our kids have that one doll or toys that if it goes missing then all hell breaks loose, and we parents scramble to find that child’s toy. Some of us have lose sleep because o that damn toy. Some of us have either burned it or thrown it away for the sake of our own insanity.

We know as parents that our child(ren) will go through that imaginary friend phrase. Some children grow out of it and some children grow into adult and still have that imaginary friend plus am imaginary girlfriend or boyfriend. Along with other imaginary things that some of us can come up with 5 pages about. That is when that doll that my mother wants comes into play for your child.

Now when purchasing a doll for your child (and I am considering a doll for the boys because sometimes they go through a phrase so let’s not excluded them) that it is first from a well-known name like Mattel, Hasbro, Hot Wheels, and Playmates Toy, to name a few. Make sure that it is a real doll and nothing like Chucky and his bride Tiffany. (Sidebar here: did you know that you can purchase those damn dolls off of eBay and Amazon? First let me say that the makers of the dolls may need some psychiatric help and those of you who have purchase these dolls already need to some counseling.)

What I am saying here is double check the damn doll before purchasing!

Here is where a parent should really start being concern. If your child tells some information that you know that child is too young to know. First have that crazy ass look on your face follow by asking that child to give you more details about the topic in which the child is explaining. Once that child has finish explaining, go get yourself a drink as you come to a comprehensive understanding as to what was explained to you. Understand this parents, your child does not need help, I recommend that you get rid of the doll first, if there is one. If not, then understand that your child may have done some research on that topic with the help of today's technology. You should still have that drink.

In my mind, I would be going like,”What kind of voodoo shit is going on here?”, “Who can I call to perform an exoticism on a toy?” followed by several more glasses of serious hard stuff. (Well hell, I need something to help me collect my thoughts!) However if my mother can get her blowup doll to talk, then I will leave all liquor alone.

The Puppet Master for those you who are familiar with the movie, I am glad that it came and went, and is currently buried somewhere. I have my mother to thank for freightening me with one things in life. Only person in this world that I trust with his talking dolls is Jeff Dunham the Ventriloquist. From Achmed to Bubba, Jose, Melvin, Sweet Daddy, Peanut and Walter, I am so glad that they all live with him. I can trust those dumdies for real. Not like Chucky . . . .Hell nah y’all!!! Chucky can come visit you at any damn given time!!

Until next folks!

Food for Thought: Question 1

So as technology becomes more and more a part of our lives.  And those of us who truly know how to use technology to make our lives so simple, I have a very good question to ask.

Would you rather lose the use of all motorized vehicles, all telecommunication devices and computers, or one of your hands?

Motorized vehicles are becoming computer enhanced to start by themselves, warm your ass, and finally include that all important map for men to find their way around, since they don’t like to ask for directions. I often hear some people complaint about how they don’t like cars becoming more like computers with a hard drive in them.  Because some of you may have experience where your car stopped in the middle of the street and caused an accident.  And what is the first excuse that you should use?  It is the manufacture fault!! But why can’t it be the driver’s fault since he or she probably did not completely read the car manual to know how to work the car and use the car to its fullest.  Dealers only gives you clip notes about the car to sale it. I love it when a non-tech savvy person purchase a new technology car and then get mad at the technology.  So not the car’s fault people!!

With a show of hand, how many of you can go a day without using your smart phone?  Millions of y’all cannot go 5 minutes.   Some of y’all are even like me and sleep with your cell phone and\or tablet or laptop in the bed with you, right?  Yeah, I am woman enough to admit that and would often prefer them than a man in the bed with me.   Oops! 

I remember the telephone being a much bigger device that sat on the table somewhere in the corner of the living room or on the wall in the kitchen.  Standing there with the receiver in one hand and your other hand on your hip with an expression on your face as you ask the question “Why wasn’t Bobby Jo smart enough to figure that out?” Or “Where in the hell is Marsha?”

If you really think about it, the game Operation was your computer back then, and today we have the Kindle.  Okay that is my new game board that I can carry in my purse.  All 35 games for now, to entertainment me even when I am on a boring date. 

Because of telecommunication devices and computers, some of y’all do not know how to leave work at work!  Some of you husbands need to explain to your wife that your job is your mistress.  And you are really having a hard time breaking up with the laptop because she does not know how to accept “no” for an answer.  Advice: stop giving her input.

But to lose a left or right hand, then how will I wash the dishes?  I would need to find a new way to put my cousins in a head lock.  You know some people use both hands to get off, I cannot image how will work out.

So to answer the question that I asked, I would pick motorized vehicles because I need my hands to order Uber on my telecommunication device.

Until next time.