If I was stranded on an island, what 3 things would I bring?

Now and again ladies and gentlemen we get these hypothetically questions that starts with "IF".  I think that a lot of us get caught with that "IF" cause even in a real life situation, however there is that one question that many of us are questioned and dream about if it really did happen to you(me).  

So I though I would go ahead and have fun with this one. . . .
If you were stranded on an island, what 3 things would you want to bring with you or could have with you? (Think really carefully.)

For myself I though about the following 3 things:

• a tool box with a screw drivers set, a hammer, a knife, 2,500 nails,500 screws, a small saw, a large box of matches and a measuring tape.

• a kitchen set including small and large sauce pan, small and large pot, 3 folks, 3 spoons, 3 knives and 3 knives, 3 plates, teapot and 3 cups. Oh I can not forget a couple of mixing bowl and wooden spoon.

• a suitcase full of clothes that would include two coats, 4 sweaters, 9 t-shirts, 6 pairs of jeans, 3 pairs of jogging pants, 12 bars and 20 pairs of panties, 10 pairs of socks, a hat, a scarf, and gloves, 2 pairs of gym shoes, and 3 pairs of ankle boots.  And please let me not forget some toiletries  

Now I know that my things are very detailed (Hey, I am a girl and I need girl things!) however if I am going to be stranded I would like to know that I at least have some of the essentials  to survive.  But I know realistically I could not and probably would not have the ability to have those in a real stranded situation.  

So I rethought to question and came up with this: a case of red wine, a case of bottle water and a case of toilet paper.

According to my dad he would need a weapon, fresh clean water and a another person to talk to.

Which got me to think about another question regarding being stranded on an island, so who would you want to be stranded with?  This question made me think very long and very hard about.

So here is what I was thinking and I broke it down into two people, past and present.  From the past I was thinking about Richard Nixon so I can find out what the hell thinking about when Watergate went down, but then I thought about Harriet Tubman because I want know her cooking and that would lead to me being a lot of trouble.  Delicious good trouble of course.  So from the past I really would have to go with the character Alexandar Grayson (which actor Jonathan Rhys Meyers plays in Dracula), that way I know for sure that I will have a GREAT ASS time!  

From the present I thought about Donald Trump but would lead to me kicking his ass 50% of the time base on some of the things that would come out of his mouth.  (Plus that is a permanent headache and unfortunately I would not have any Tramadol with me.) But if I had to pick anyone from the present it would be my best friend Glenna.  Why?  Because I know she would appreciate the peace and quiet, the sun and the fresh air without having a lot of people there, and the fresh fruit and how we can cook our food our way.

So now I going to ask everyone, if you were strand on a desert island, what 3 things would you need and with who would you want to be there with having one person from the past and one person from the present?

I can wait to read what some you are going to say!

The Psychology of Communication

So I ran across this topic in Pinterest and I really had to stop what I was initially doing to read this article about the Psychology of Communication.  Y'all know that I am about to have fun with this, right?   Here are two words that most of us do not know how to use well: psychology (and Lord help us!) and communication (Our Father, give us, all those on this earth the understanding of having patience with ourselves as we form our words to correctly come out of our mouths . . . . )

In today's time our biggest problem is that we don't listen to understand before replying.  (Can I get an AMEN! up in here?)

In today's time, our biggest problem is that before we speak we do not grasp the full understanding of what the other person is trying to communication to us. (Can I get another AMEN! up in here?)

In today's time, our biggest problem is that we do not full express yourselves right to fully received a proper and correct response.  (I need another AMEN! up in here.)

In today's time, our biggest problem is that there are those who share way shit that some of us don't give a fuck to know!  (Where is my AMEN on this one!) I am just saying and you know what kind of information I am talking about.

In today's time (Yes I am taking this one to church people!), in today's time our biggest problem is some of us cope an attitude when someone else is trying convey their understanding to you, and they do not know how to express it right.  (Who got their Sunday's best on 'cause I need another AMEN! on this here.)

For an example, the other day I had to give support to an acquaint of mine.  She was complaining how stupid she was for not explaining herself correctly to the boyfriend and for letting things get the way they were at that time.  I agree with her on her stupidity but I explain to her that she was good at it and that she should be proud at acknowledging her stupidity.  Here is where the psychology part of communication comes in at: I am willing to support whatever mental state you happen to be!  You would not support your friend who communicating their feelings in their current state of mind?  Okay then.  A true friend would will always tell their friend the truth about themselves . . .that is part of the psychology of communication people.

Family members are excluded from this because regardless of what level of psychology may be presented at any time to communication. . . . . . they are still your family! (Amen!)

Here is another example people: have you ever paid attention to how the word "Hello" can go a long way with some people who are appreciative enough to return a "Hello" to you.  Ever when you say "Good morning" or "Good evening" to an unknown person and either that person or some one who is an appreciative person with return it in good manner. (Notice I did not say shit about good nature.)  Because depending on who you are talking to, they may not be in good nature to return your good nature in the same pleasant that you gave it however will return it with an half-ass response.  (Can I get an AMEN up in here?) If you never paid attention, try it!

Ladies and Gentlemen the psychology of communication is done in various form and throughout our lives. How we communicate to with others is how they will get that communication back to us.   but then again there are times we need to exercise that strong will to not go upside some one's head due to their mental state.  Trying to stay bright in your element can be difficult when somebody else pisses you off.  That is not your problem, that is theirs.  Remember do on to others as they will do upon to you!  (I know . . .it is difficult to do!)

For parents this can sometimes excluded you because, when I was young, my mother used to say "I brought you into this world, and I CAN take you out of it!" Yeah I did not like when she said it however she is my mother and I did whatever actions I was told.  This is the same psychology of communication that I used with my own son.  It is call "Fear your Mother!"

The art of communication can be fun at someone else's expense.  My second mother Patricia has an habit of repeating herself in one conversation at least 4 to 7 times.  For fun, I like to repeat it back to her in proper English; yeah, it pisses her off to no end.  In her angry state of mind she will say to me "Fuck you Victoria!"  I will reply to her with a "I love you mommy!" And it is followed by another "Fuck up Victoria!" This is our psychology of our communication. (Okay it is more fun for me than her.)  She and I are both Capricorns and we are like day and night; she being night and me being day all damn day long intruding on her night.

The psychology of communication comes in many different forms which we all know and we express.  This is why we have comedies like Seinfeld, Bill Blemeny, and my cousin Q.  Their style of communication provides monster laughs from everyone.  And that is why we have politicians. . . they feed us the psychology of bullshit!

We deal with the psychology of communication in everything that we do daily. From our family, to our friends, to coworkers/boss, and to strangers. Even when we drive our cars, there is a level of psychology in communication there.  How many of you drive on the defense?  Because other people can not drive!  See the psychology of it.  Their driving has communicate to you to be on the defense.

Now my family including my cousins, has communicate to me that I should not drive that way everyone else would be safe.  I guess they were not worried about themselves!  Psychologically!

What is in my purse?

So for those who know real well, know that I seldomly carry a small purse. Now before your men get turn off and move on to next thing to read, you should really pay attention to this and read this because not knowing what is in a woman purse can be detrimental to your health.  First know that different between a purse and a hand bag: a purse is smaller, a clutch is smaller than a purse and a hand bag can kick your ass.  A woman's life in that bag/purse, and let me further explain.

In my very big black bag, I have in it:

• A large tube of moisturizing body balm, can not have dry crackling hands.  
• A red wallet with all my club cards in it, a couple pic of Nick, driving license, and cash. 
• A gold pouch with lipstick, lip tinter, lip balmer, vitamin oil for my toes, rewetting drop for my eyes, Avon powder for my face, and my inhaler.
• A red pouch and inside it is my sun glasses, extra pair of headphones, a couple of pens and some post-it in case I need to write and leave an emergency note.
• A red very small red case for an extra set of contact lens.
• A bottle of Mult-purpose Disinfecting Solution for my contact lens; this is a 2 fl. oz., no biggy.
• Sony headphone to tone everyone else out.
• A bottle of Ibuprofen for just in case moments.
• Purell instead hand sanitizer which I think everyone should be carrying.
• A bag of Halls Defense and a bag of Halls, need to stay healthy.
• Ice breakers, for those moments.
• My Epipen, can not leave home without that, EVER!
• A red eyeglass with actual prescription glasses, in case I do not want to continue wearing my contact lens.
• My tablet with its case, one of two ways of keeping up with social media while in the streets.
• A small red notebook for notes.
• An emergency cell phone charger.
• A black card holder with my cards, trying to put my writing out there.
• A red umbrella and a scarf for a quick thrown on accessory with my outfit. 
• And a bottle of Victoria's Secret perfume, appropriately titled Victoria!

Now understand this gentlemen, though items listed above are in my purse now, that can all change tomorrow depending on what I am going wear.  Pay attention gentlemen, most women change their bag according to their outfits.  Yes we (referring to us women and a few other girlfriends and y'all know who in the hell I am talking about) always must accessorizes.  Yes what is in my bag does not mean that it will bag in other women's bags, well maybe a third of it will.  But do know that some women carry more makeup, will have several pieces of clothing and a pair of shoes in their bag.  And you will NEVER know it. 

Now I would like to have in my bag is something I can pull out in case of "I need a man" moment.  Ladies you know: he will be taller than you with a nice body, pretty bewitch eyes and very kissable lips. . . . never mind!  That is why that boy from Ireland is grounded now, and will stay grounded until he becomes ugly. (Got the angry face here!)

And gentlemen have you ever notice how us women carry our bags around?  You notice how she just fling its around like it is paper.  Trust me we are just waiting for a moment to knock your ass into 2026 for just thinking the wrong thing or for looking at that other chick when you should be paying attention to her.  And while you are looking at the size of our purse, you should wonder if we got a pair pliers or knife in that bag.  Hell if it is bag enough she might pull out a chainsaw out on your ass.  But then it might be small enough to carry a brick in to do just enough damage for you to get some stitches and new set of common sense. (We can only wish!)

Gentlemen, just be aware of our purse!  It can be your friend or enemy and now that it is October . . . .the worst thing we got in our purse is a bag a chocolate.  Well I got cashews, some Thai bites and Snickerdoodle dip with cinnamon pretzel sticks.  (I am not a fan of chocolate!)

Coming this month in October. . .

I can not believe that we are in October already!  Yes I am freaking out because my finals for this term is in 3 weeks, along with Halloween! How many of concern October the beautiful month or the scary month? Now look here it can only be one of the two choice and I am going to ask you some questions that you should think about or at least ask that crazy girl at work these questions.

Do you love it when right about this time the color of the leaves start to change to yellow, then orange, then red, and then brown?

Do you love it when stores start advertising for Halloween and October has not came yet?

Do you love it when you notice that the temperature starts to change to chilly to cold?

Do you love it that television land starts the 31 Days of Freight Feast on October 1?

Do you find yourself drinking more beer in October than any other months?

Do you find yourself just driving around looking a the beautiful scenery that fall has to offer?

Don't you just hate it that Wes Craven is no longer here to continue his regimen of terror on us?

Don't you just hate it that when you finally go to pick out your Halloween costume there is not one in your size?

Don't you just hate it the Freddie can still pop up in your damn dreams? 

Don't you just hate it that all the scary movies that you seem before can still scared the beejesus out of you?

Don't you just hate it that you did not bring a bigger bag of all that Halloween candy?

For those of you who have hard wood floor, don't you just hate it that you are now walking on clod floors and that they are going to get even colder?

Don't you just hate it when the neighbor hood bully takes all your Snickers out of your Halloween bag?

Don't you just hate it when now is the time for you to be changing your summer wardrobe for the fall and winter wardrobe?

Don't you just love it when all the crazy people in your office comes around to pass out Halloween candy and one or two of them actually do frighten you?

Don't you just hate it that when you go into a haunted house and you know what to aspect, yet you still jump from fear?

Ladies are you like me and love the deep red colors along with to gold, browns, and teal that comes out with the fall fashion?

Some of y'all may not know this, but for those of you who drive everyday for one reason or other, and come across those drivers whom you say don't know how to drive . . . . . . That is Your Halloween on a daily basis!

I can probably guess what some of you are going to say, however let me say this. . . . . there ain't no way in hell of present time that I am going to watch a scary movie in this month.  Not without 7, 9, 12, 15, 18 bottles of wine.  Per movie!

Ladies and gentlemen, have a fun month with October.  Instead of drinking beer, drink hard apple cider and pretend to be drunk, that way you don't get a ticket from the po po (that's police to some of you unknowns).  Guys find the scariness haunted house that you can find that way she can see you jump. (Hahahaha!)   Ladies, take a picture of your favorite relative, have it blown up to a mask, wear it for Halloween, then see how they react! (I got a little cousin name Spook. Yes, I know what you are thinking and that is why I am going to use his face for Halloween.) Haha haha haha!

Miss Victoria's Secrets!

Y'all, I have been told time and time again that the life that I have lived should be and ought be written for everyone else to read.  Yes I believe in living a life that is not designed around others but it is enjoyed with others.  But before I can write down these stories that I have lived, I think you should at least get to know me better and understand my mental state of mind! Right?

I am so the Devil's Daughter in my behavior. This is a good thing because . . . . I enjoy what life has to offer.

I will always tell you the truth about me so be careful what questions you ask me.

If I am offended about something, I will tell you.  That way I am always happy.

I give compliments where I see compliments are deserved, and I make it a point to compliment my friends and some of my love ones. (I said some!)

I am flirtation and I like to bite with it.

Who would I have an affair with? Hhhmm, let me think. . . . Simon LeBon for starters; Daniel Craig can be my everyday robe; Jonathan Rhys-Meyers is my every day snack; Chiwetel Ejiofer can dress me and undress me for that fact; and Idris Elba (Lord have mercy!) would require me to think about it! (I saw a picture . . . . hhhmmm, I saw A PICTURE!) (Happy face!)

Do I enjoy going to swingers parties? Of course I do and sure that martinis are being served.

Am I an opportunist?  Only if it is given to me. 

What are my hobbies?  Create one for me so I can get into trouble.

My favor drink is Sake-tini.  Followed by Soju and a Saki bomber. 

I keep a bottle of either Gray Goose or Absolute Vodka just so I can stay objective when I am writing my papers.

I am on the lower end of being a full-figure girl.  Don't ask me to be skinny, I don't fuckin' look right!

I am a gamer mom with my own Guitar Hero set and second guitar.  I have Devil May Cry 1, 2, 3, & 4 and never play them.

I enjoy watching anime and wat--ching anime.  All you slow ones hurry up and catch up!

I would like to sit down with Donald Trump and discuss with him about King Richard IV.  Followed by a day or two of peace and quiet. 

Even though I have several boyfriends, Mehmet is the only one (for now)!

When it comes to shopping, I shop more for underwear because a girl must have something sexy underneath at all times!

My daily moisturizer is Vitamin E, that way you all would continue to believe that I am in my thirties!

I eat in modernization that would include my men.  And come to think of it the only time I do chocolate are my men.  (Giggles!)

I am very supportive in anything that my friends decide to do with theirs lives. Even if they fuck up, I will still support them.  And if they understand that they fucked up, I will support them in their understanding of their fucked up.

My two favorite big brothers are Ronnie and Reggie Kray.

My favorite book is The Kite!

My favorite movies are The Mummy and Deuce Bigalow: Male Gigolo.  Find the connection.

My favorite television series is Dracula starring Jonathan Rhys Meyers.  (NBC and Amazon needs their ass kick for this one!) Got a girl addicted like hell!

My pet-peeves: when a man get into bed with his socks on and he tells me what I can not do. (There is a reason why I am a woman of many skills.)

Turn-ons: An intelligent man with an open-mind and a cast iron stomach! (My taste buds are all over the world!)

Being objective and being non-judge-mental is always a good thing and even better for you! Lord knows how direct I can be.

I love things that are simple and confusing.  That is just how my mind works.

I DO NOT LIKE DRAMA!  Unless it is K-drama (Korean soap operas!)

I find nothing wrong with being naughty as long as it is done with the right person! 

I am always thinking; it is when I am NOT thinking that everyone else is in trouble!

And my favorite pets are Scooby-Doo, Tom & Jerry, and Bugs Bunny.  They require no feeding, no petting, and no cleaning.

I have more secrets to tell . . . .but when I learned them then I can tell you.  But for right now I am trying to understand the psychology of communication and I have to give JRM an apology for 6 Souls. (Well, let me think about that apology!)

What is Pre-Pause Menopause?

Upon turning 45 years last December I have been experiencing some womanly things that has cause me to not be myself any more. I find myself being a lot more happier, nicer and sarcastic than usual.  I know that when I get in my 40s that I would be going throw some things with my body but the Lord did not prepare me for what I have been through this year with my body.  So recently I went to see my Gyn. and Lord have mercy on me because I have been her calling my BYON or my GYON, y'all just walk along with me because I really have not myself at all.

So sitting the in the doctor's office with the doctor and I am explaining to her how Auntie Flo has really been inconvenient for me this year.  I love her when she shows up on regular 28 days but then there were times when she would show up 2 or 2 1/2 weeks later and in my frame of mind, I am like let me kill this bitch here! There has also been a few times where this bitch would show up 30 or 45 days later. Ladies in my frame of mind I am like give me a knife so I can stab this bitch!  (Now keep in mind that I am explaining this to my Gyn.)  Auntie Flo makes herself be known by causing me such pain that I am bend over trying to push her out like I am in labor.  Whenever Auntie Flo is visiting and if I am sitting in the back seat of a car, whoever is in the front seat, guess what?  Their ass is going into the engine of car. That is just how much Auntie Flo is causing extreme discomfort for me.  I also described some other symptoms which I would not share here and just know that they were too crazy for me to comprehend before I had this conversation with my Gyn.

So the following dialog is what took place between me and doctor:

Doctor: Are you having double vision?

Me: Only when I going intents spreadsheets and viewing social media for took long.

Doctor: Do you get dizziness?

Me: Only when I drink too much Kool-aid.

Doctor:  How is your sleep habit?

Me: There are nights where I can sleep all night and there are times like that past few night where I have toss my ass like a salad.  However I am contributing that to Auntie Flo who just came and went. Thank you Jesus!  And yet I have not done my 28 days cycle and I am thinking that I am starting menopause.

(But then the doctor said something that just floored the hell out of me!)
Doctor: It sound like you are having pre-pause menopause.

Ladies, I wish you all were there to see the look on my face because I was still on the "Pre" of the pre-pause menopause.

Me: What? (And I trying to think here but I can't because of the "Pre".)

Doctor: It is where your body is starting to prepare itself for menopause.

Me: WHAT? And wait I am still on the "pre" part.

Doctor: Pre-pause menopause takes place 3 to 7 years prior to menopause taking action. 

Me: Huh? ( I am still in astonishment with "pre"!) (Y'all had to be there to witness my reaction to hearing this.)

Doctor: Menopause is when you do not have a period of a year or more straight.  You period might come for a few months and then not come for a few months.  That is not menopause and you can still have a baby during that time.

Me: Shit, I did not need to encourage Mehmet like that! That boy is under the impression that we can have a baby!  And that is really a conversation that I did not want to have my 25 years son.  Can you image what he will say after all this time?!  And he is leaving to go do Active Duty for the Army. 

(Yes Ladies I am freaking out about this because on one hand Mehmet will have hope and on the other Nick will kill me!)

Doctor: (and she is laughing at me!) You will be fine and I will give some to information on Pre-pause menopause.  Let's start your exam.  Would you like a flu shot today as well?

Me: What? Huh?  Really?  Is it time for that again?  What?

Before leaving the doctor's office I did get my flu shot wondering when did that become apart of the Big Girl Exam process. 

The next day I was still in all about the Pre-Pause Menopause that I had to call Glenna and tell her all about my visit with the Gyn (Gyon - I am not myself, y'all!), repeating everything to here prompted her to say "What?' follow by laughter.  So our conversation was like this:

Glenna: I wonder how many millions of dollars did it take for them to come up with that word?

Me: Do they even do studies on Menopause?

Glenna: Sure they do! How in the hell do you think they come up with all these damn names.

Me: But what exactly is Menopause?

Glenna: Menopause is the transaction of a woman body changes into drying up and get blowing away.  You should write about this in your blog?

Me: I sure should.  Wait, let me write down what you just said about menopause.  Repeat what you just said.

Glenna: I said, I said that menopause is the transaction of  . . . . . . . what the hell did I just say? Menopause is the action of . . . . . Aw hell! Don't ask a person with earlier stages of Alzheimer's disease to remember what the hell I just said!!!

Me: Oooops, sorry sweetie! {As part of the Psychology of Communication, I know that my BBF has a lot of health issues and I never want to her to feel that she is alone in them!}  I forget the we had that!
(This is followed by laughter from the both of us!)

Glenna: What happen to Post Menopause?  And that is all I know about is post menopause.

So Ladies I had to do some research on this to learn that Menopause comes in three stages.  (What?)
Perimenopause, Menopuase, and PostMenopause.  (NO WONDER I AM SO CONFUSED!)  And Lord have mercy . . . . I can not wait to have a discussion with Glenna regard this?

Stay tune and at this point I need something strong than vodka, perhaps Saki!

Coming this Month in September!

Lord have mercy, we are in another month for the year 2015.  If some of y'all like me and you saying this year is flying by . . .for some of us this a good while for others it may not.

For a lot of parents this is a good thing because it is the start of another school for their children who are going back to school or have already started school.  Who is doing the dance of joy on this one?  If you don't have little ones still at home, this means peace and quiet for you at home until 3 p.m. For other parents it means fewer less children. (Geçmiş olsun!)  But it also brings all the after school programs, those parent-teacher conferences that many parents dread, and those Fridays' night games.

For all you new college students, for the first month you will be stupid to things but after that you will be okay.  For all you second year students who did not learn anything in your first year, then consider yourself still stupid!  For you third year students who have managed to get this far congratulation, but you still have not cleared the stupid range just yet.  And those of you who have final made it to this last year of college, you are about to meet the most scariest teacher in your  college life that will make stupid you like you were when you were a freshmen.  (Geçmiş olsun!)

For all of you who decide to embark on getting that Master degree, I encourage you to become a member of a wine club because you will need to stay objective in your writing.  And for those of you who have moved on to getting that Ph. D, I recommend that you find a friend who currently gets a subscription of Vicodin from their doctor.  By the way, geçmiş olsun!

It is the start for yet another wonderful school year of high financial expenses.  Depending on what level your children are at and how many children you have in school.  Elementary school is not so bad with school supplies, Halloween candy and costumes, picture day, Christmas parties, Valentine candy, Easter party and birthday parties at school.  It is not that bad!

For you parents who have kids in high school, we have homecoming game and party, turn-a-bouts, class pictures, prom for our juniors and seniors, and graduation for our seniors.  That is not bad!

For your college student parents', for each that child is in college they will spend a third of your savings.  If you don't believe me here is what you should do: one, save all the receipts from the items that you brought them at the beginning of the year for their dorm living (don't forget to include the gas money you had to spend to them to the dorm); two, keep receipts of all expenses for the whole year including travel and extra spending money; and three, keep all moving out of the dorm expenses this would include gas money too.  then add it all up . . .you probably spend more than a third.  As a parent you have the right to tell your child to get a job to help pay for some of these expenses.

And for those of you who getting that Master or that Ph. D, you are shit out of luck! Your parents can NOT help you at this stage in your life. So man up or woman up and pay for those expenses out of your own pocket.  Yeah, it will hurt while you are getting that degree and it will hurt even more when you finish and got that job to help pay back that money. (Smiles)  This is why I am recommending that you join a wine club.  So it can hurt less, not much but a little less.

Today starts a new 8 week class for me and the start of my social media university classes. So while y'all are reading this, I have already called Asia and she and I are headed to Cooper Hawks to get our case of wine! (She got a 5th grader, an 8th grader, and a junior in high school) She more than a case.